40 DAYS OF LESS

Welcome to the Carpool podcast with Kelly.

Oh no, Fischer, I'm wearing an athleisure.

Everyone else is just in like their play clothes.

Tyler's in a hoodie and we're like,

George, come on, he's like almost ready.

Comes out, cowboy hat, belt, button down,

tucked in in his jeans, and it's his boots.

I'm just like.

And Liz.

It's so much easier for me to get rid of my kids stuff

than my own, which is like another introspective thing

that I need to like.

I'm learning a lot about myself.

Your mom time off starts now.

Welcome back to the Carpool podcast with Kelly.

And Liz.

Hey, Liz.

Hey, Kel.

I feel like I didn't talk to you at all this weekend.

I was busy.

I know.

I was busy.

Just like making like everything my personality, you know?

So I'm week one, no sugar.

And you're saying you can tell a difference in my face.

I mean, when you were like showing up on your stories,

I was like, it's not like you're just kind of like

have a glow about you.

And I can definitely tell.

I didn't think you were puffy in the face before.

Like I would have never described your face as puffy

or inflamed, but I have seen it less so.

I'm like, wow, maybe it really, maybe you really

were just like a little bit more inflamed than we thought.

Overall, I'm feeling pretty good.

I'm having like some health issues today, which, like,

arg, not the vibe, arg.

I woke up with like very itchy and like some highs on my face.

Like my whole body was itchy, so I went to urgent care.

And, you know, they're like, you need to get into your allergist.

And I'm like, obviously.

So they gave me some stuff to help.

I called my allergist.

I have an appointment, but not till March 12.

But they're like, if you get worse, call us back.

And I'm like, OK, I will.

So I'm fine.

I just like don't like dealing with these kinds of things.

You don't know when does.

And it's the waiting game, too.

It's like March 12.

That's like several weeks away.

And I just don't know.

Like there's been so much with like the health issues

I've had earlier in the year.

I just don't like what's real and what's like my anxiety

or what's like telling me something's worse than it is.

And when you have these like symptoms, it's like,

I'm really itchy is my throat closing up.

It's like, no, your throat's not closing up.

You're anxious that your throat could close up.

You're fine.

And it's just kind of like a mind game.

So anyways, just like slightly different tune

than I was like a couple of weeks ago,

because like this was kind of like a bummer.

I know.

But one thing about me is I'm going to figure it out

because I am the CEO of my health.

Totally.

And whatever ship you're the CEO of, Cal,

it's set for success.

100%.

So anyway, sugar free for seven days.

And I'll just like, I won't bore you guys with it too much.

But overall cravings more minimal than I was expecting.

OK.

I'm enjoying a detox over like a more traditional

amusing air quotes diet.

Did I talk about this last time?

Because I did.

Because I can't.

And that's still I'm taking like a lot of

that's helping me stay a lot more disciplined.

Yeah.

And I'm actually very happy that I cut out honey

and maple syrup because like I can't imagine

how exciting honey is going to be.

You know, and like if I didn't keep keep those out,

like then I wouldn't want to go back to them.

OK.

So I'm kind of enjoying that.

That will be a good when you when you are done

with your detox and I'm sure post detox,

you're going to still want to have a more limited

sugar intake than you once did.

Then you can be like, oh, maple syrup, honey,

my sweet treats, whatever.

Yeah.

And I've talked to people who have done sugar detoxes

and they're like, no, I went back to eating sugar,

but I just ate a lot less sugar.

And I'm like, sure, I like that.

Yeah. So.

Well, you're into that.

I'm into my Lenten, my detox.

With 40 days of less.

Me and chat to PT.

Chat to PT did.

It's really good.

Thank you.

I couldn't think of a snappy name for it.

I was like, here's what I'm doing.

Chat, like, what is a snappy way that I can do this?

40 days of less.

So cute.

And I am loving it.

What I really like that I did and I like made this up

and it somehow it's like I made it up really well

because what I did was I have 40 areas of my home

and then also 820 items, pick number one through 40 equals

820 that I'm getting rid of and having kind of that

of the area that I'm going to declutter has been really helpful

because like, if you just look around your house, you're like,

I can't get rid of 8, 820 things of like what I'm seeing.

But I just dove into the depths of my cord box

and I got rid of 25 items that I'm not even going to notice

are gone, actually.

Sure.

And so that has it's just been it's been a really good way

to like force me to come face to face with things like my cord box

and really ask myself how many USBC chargers does one need.

And I and it's not and I can tell you it's not eight.

How many is that?

That's extra ones, mind you.

That's not the ones that are like plugged in that I use on a daily basis.

So it's really forced me to like come face to face with things.

It's forced me to come face to face with like some clothing items,

like my swimsuits and just like really wonder

if and when I, you know, in the same size that I once was,

is this even going to be the lifestyle?

Like, is this even?

I don't need to have the swimsuit that I wore when I was 24.

If and when I ever get to that size again, because like

it's a stringy top.

It's like, I'm a mom, please.

Like, I don't need to wear this.

Totally. With like with pre baby clothes, I.

I've never held on to them that much

because it was also the mindset like if I'm going to hold on to something

for three years, so I fit in it again.

If I get back to that size, I'm buying myself a new pair of pants is what I'm doing.

Right. Right.

I don't need my I don't need Abercrombie jeans

that have sat in a storage thing in my basement for four years.

Like, yeah.

So it's really forcing me to

like do a deep dive in my home, and I'll tell you what,

there is nothing better than the serotonin boost.

And we've talked about this, the serotonin boost of a clean area.

It's so much it is so much better than buying something.

When I open my organized medicine cabinet,

serotonin boost every single time.

Yeah, we talked about this with with debt free mom care, creates contentment.

Yes, it is.

It rings so true.

Like if you are getting that itch to go out and buy something or do something

like what would like a perfectly organized closet do for you though?

Like think about that.

It does so much more because like buying something feels good in the moment.

And then maybe the Amazon box comes and then you got to deal with all.

You got to deal with the Amazon box.

You got to break the box down.

You got to unwrap it.

You got to find it's actually it lasts so it is so short lived the amount of time

that that serotonin boost lasts and in organized space that you use every day.

Oh, it feels so great.

And totally.

So it's going really well.

So I don't understand the only thing I understand about your challenge is like,

so if you got cord box and you got 25, do you have to get rid of 25 things

from the box? That's where it's kind of confusing.

So I I had pulled the number 38 and I knew that I wanted to do my base,

my my closet floor.

I didn't have I had 15 items between my closet floor and other stuff in my closet

to get rid of.

And so then I was like, I still have a long way to go.

I only have 15.

I got to get to 38.

What's like an area that I know is like there's going to be a lot.

And my my I reached for my cord box.

I still need to organize like my overall closet that my cord box was in,

but I at least started with my cord box.

So I actually got over the amount that I was supposed to pull for for today.

So I'm winning.

Have you pulled 40 yet or no?

I haven't pulled 40.

And actually, I do think when I do pull for I I think when I do pull 40,

I'm going to have to go through my pre baby clothes, which I haven't opened

that box yet.

I'm kind of nervous for.

But I know there will be a lot in there.

But it's like 40 items is a lot.

And this is after you've already gone through it like several days.

Like, yeah, it is actually hard.

Are you doing any of Maddie's stuff or is that like not doing any of Maddie's

I'm doing because Maddie does a really good job at keeping.

So does Tyler.

His like, I think he has some things that he has held on to for too long

that like, I don't get why we need this rugby flag, but like maybe we need the

way I'm going to get that's his journey.

It's not my journey to say whether or not we need this rugby flag or not.

But he does a really good job of like going through his clothes

and his shoes and all that stuff.

Um, he's a very organized man, actually.

So I'm the problem for sure in the relationship.

But I am doing the kids stuff, which.

It's so much easier for me to get rid of my kids stuff than my own,

which is like another introspective thing that I need to like.

I'm learning a lot about myself.

No, that is interesting.

I'm learning a lot about myself.

We're having that we're I'm really proud of us.

We're really kind of on the ball.

Um, well, speaking of stuff that I didn't buy,

I went to my dinner auction this weekend.

You didn't post enough.

Well, here's the thing.

It's like every other thing says my kids school all over it.

So like, I'm not trying.

I'm just like, you know, sure.

I know everyone wanted more.

I wanted to give more.

It was just I found it very hard.

Yeah, great content at a child's interaction.

I understand.

Um, but I did just like.

I got the front row tickets, which was really good.

Now, luckily they were still on the left side and a right side.

I am happy to report that the right side went for what the left side went.

So like I did pay market.

OK, for what you were getting.

And then I also got the preschool concert tickets, which also felt good.

So many people, I guess, don't do dinner auctions, which.

People were like so shocked.

That was when you paid for it.

And I just have to say to you, like you're leaving money on the table.

For your school, I don't know.

And forgive me, I've gone to like Catholic school my whole life.

Is it like a private?

Is it like a private Catholic school thing?

Because like they have to raise money for the school because it's not tax funded?

I mean, no, because I go.

I go to like Ford Interactions every year and to our public schools.

OK, no, I don't know.

So I think it's maybe just like a regional thing for us.

Just feels like it should be a universal thing.

Well, like that's what I'm saying.

Like it's you're leaving money on the table because.

Yeah, parents will pay for someone to tell me that they went for like five

to six thousand dollars the front row seats at the kindergarten concert.

What? I know people want to leave a donation for the school.

They want to leave a donation.

It's fun. And also like then they get something out of it.

And like it was a free thing that for you, it's not like it's a write off for people.

Like that's what I'm saying.

So like you need to be doing auctions at your school.

Some of the things that were like up for sale that like weren't physical items

was like the name, the playground they did, which these went for a lot.

They sold one of each where it was like your kid could be the PE teacher for the day.

The fun, the art teacher, the computer teacher, the music teacher.

Those were going, I tried to go in for George, one for Hattie.

They were like five hundred bucks a piece. What?

Yeah, they were going. Wow.

Guys, I'm telling you, I don't live in like my school is not like an insane

like a fluent school at by any means.

Like it's a very regular school.

You're leaving money on the table.

And this is this is you're right.

Like this is just the check that people want to cash like yearly

to like donate to the school.

And so like, do you want your kid to have a no, no uniform day?

Like, OK, fifty bucks right now.

I'm like, OK, sure. Like, OK, whatever.

Wow. The no uniform days.

Remember those in grade school?

We have like occasionally

dressed down days, but you had to pay a dollar to do it.

Yeah, I know.

So funny, they're really getting you for everything they can.

I mean, really?

Um, so it was so fun.

Then I worked at the dessert auction, which I talked about last time.

And like I just sometimes forget like how I sometimes forget what a salesman I am.

Yeah.

Because like, you know, you're supposed to just sit there

and then people are supposed to come up, look at the desserts

and then you just basically ride on a clip or what they buy.

Well, I get there.

I'm working the six or seven shift in or served at seven.

I'm thinking this is our this is our last hurrah and there's dessert sitting here.

So I was with my friend Annie.

I said, Annie, grab that cheesecake and I started going table to table.

We sold the cheesecake.

I said, Annie, go get the carrot cake.

She brings the carrot cake by Annie.

Go get the cherry pie.

I'm going to hit this table in the back.

Yeah. Got I mean, I was.

Bullying everyone.

My line, I was like, Hey, you guys, like.

I'm just nervous.

Like I don't see any desserts on your table.

Dinner's about to be served.

This is the best dessert we have left.

Do you guys want me to leave it here?

I can get you plates right now.

And they were like, oh, we're OK.

We they have cookies down there.

And I'm like, you know, but like that guy looks really hungry.

And I'm just worried that like, you're not going to have your own.

I was like, you can bring this home to the kids tomorrow.

I mean, I was I was schlepping.

She was not taking no for an answer.

No. And I got him all sold.

I love that.

Yeah, it was her cook.

That's I'm like, this is what I'm good at.

I literally was almost like going to like raise the prices behind their backs.

I mean, these are going to these are going.

I mean, I just spent four hundred bucks.

On the front row tickets to a concert and this

cheesecake is only 50, like, come on, like this is not this is the homemade

giant cheesecake. This needs to be one.

This needs to be one twenty.

Yeah, but we had fun.

So fun.

Yeah, I love it.

And I don't really get anything else of note.

We like then we just like did like, you know, the raise the paddle,

which everyone's like, who will give this, who will give that?

I'm telling you, like you're leaving money on the table.

You really are.

Mm hmm. There's raffle tickets.

Like I bought didn't win anything in the raffle.

The silent auctions were going crazy.

And I just didn't want a basket because I just don't want things in my home at the moment.

Yeah, I can relate.

And there wasn't there was there wasn't a basket that I was like super excited about.

Mm hmm.

But I definitely did cause some drama with them.

Like, you know, I like knew I would go up and like raise it by 20 bucks just to

just knowing. Yeah, just to do my part.

Tell you're always doing your part.

Yeah. So it was super fun.

And I have another one this weekend.

Can't wait.

Wow.

But it's at my kid's school.

So I will be more interested in the baskets.

I'll probably I'll probably get a basket.

OK, sure.

Because there's other things I wanted at my kid's school,

but like I don't want the former tickets to that kindergarten.

So I don't know that kid.

Right. Right. OK.

Do you think yours of all the ones you go to,

what do you know, which one raises the most money?

I think ours does. Really?

I mean, it sounds like it.

Are you saying are like people and, you know, you have we have a couple,

like a very generous people.

Yeah. Who are just like, you know, raise the paddle.

I'll give five grand to the school.

You know what I'm saying?

Like it's such a rush.

It's so exciting.

Like you're in a community like we're all doing this together.

Like it's so fun.

Well, you know, then like they show you pictures of the kids and then the principal

comes up and like, you know, we want to do with the money.

We want to renovate this classroom and get them this late.

I'm like, OK, it's for the kids.

Totally. It's so fun.

I literally love a dinner auction.

So it was a good night.

But then I do think it triggered some of my hives.

So most of what happens?

I started getting itchy that night.

I did drink.

People were asking if I would have you enough alcohol.

I just drank club soda, tequila and true line packets.

Zero sugar.

But I am wondering if Jose did me dirty.

I mean, they took away your Caesar salads.

Like can't take away your tequila.

Actually, they can.

Like if they want to take away my tequila, I'm fine.

Yeah, I get that.

I feel so frustrated that like I even had a reaction, which again,

I know like mine are nothing compared to what other people are having.

But like, I just want to feel good, you know.

I mean, also like you're going through all the hullabaloo of like giving up sugar

to like even feeling crummy from alcohol is like so not worth it.

I know. So I'm like, I've told like not I'm not really that into.

I used to be a way bigger drinker.

Before I had kids, obviously, and even like between some of my kids now,

like I'm just like not in the mood for it.

I was in the mood.

I feel you.

I want to eat my calories. Sorry.

I was talking. I was talking to someone the other day

and I was like, you know, my first pregnancy, like stopping drinking was

hard, like I would go to social places and it was hard for me to.

I felt not drinking.

I don't know if people are drinking around me.

I don't I mean, I am in a field at the bachelorette party.

I'm going to like going out to dinner doesn't phase me at all.

Don't need a drink does like I just don't care at all anymore.

Yeah.

Anyway, I'm just I'm just like craving like the only thing I want

like so badly right now is like I just want I was telling Liz's yesterday.

I want like this.

I want like the sugaryest, most delicious latte.

Like I want something called like the Teddy Graham latte.

Like I don't know what that is, but like I want a cookie butter latte.

I want a s'mores latte.

I want something like that.

So I wasn't with 42 grams of sugar, like that's what I want.

And it's just like, OK, I can have black coffee.

With cream. Yeah.

So it's what I'm probably going to have after this.

It's just like so interesting.

And something in my doctor was also like, you know,

you did just like go through an insane lifestyle change.

Like your body could have just like been freaked out

because you're on the sugar detox, you had a little alcohol, now you have hives.

Like I'm fine.

Like I was fine, fine.

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I also, though, last night I wasn't feeling the best because of my things.

And Tyler was so nice when he took all four of the kids to his mom's house,

which was like, Teller's never done that.

Teller's been very scared of Libby up until now.

He's like, doesn't he's like, no, I'll take the bigs, you take Libby.

Like that's just kind of been like our default.

But it's to the point now where it's like, no, leave me all three bigs and just

take Libby because Libby is such a terror.

Yeah.

And I was like, just put her in the car.

She's ready for a nap, like your mom will watch her.

So they did that, praise be.

And I was able to lay in bed and I turned on the America's Next Top Model documentary.

Have you heard about this?

I have. I haven't watched it yet, but I have thoughts without watching it.

So like, first of all, like what a time in culture was America's Next Top Model?

So what's very interesting about the documentary is they tire us in it.

Right.

Which I'm only on episode one, and I think it definitely gets a lot more insane

with what they're doing.

What are your takes?

My takes are Tyra.

There's been people have been asking for a documentary on it because you'll

they'll reair clips from old episodes and should be like, what even the heck was

this show? Yeah.

And so this is Tyra trying to get ahead of it.

Yeah.

And trying to say her, her piece, whatever her, I, whatever her piece is,

like it's crazy.

She's trying to get ahead of the narrative so she can't get canceled.

Of what she fully, I'm sorry, I don't like to cancel people.

The things on that show fully deserve to be canceled.

So, you know, I'm very, I'm kind of surprised that's your intense reaction to it.

I do agree there was some like insane things that happened on the show.

And I feel like Tyra coming on the documentary from what I've seen so far,

she's doing herself no favors because one, she's not taking any accountability

for it, which like.

I can sympathize with it was a different time.

I'll look through it crazy for that.

But like, she's not even, she's not even like acknowledging that part of it.

And then she kind of, I find that she's kind of contradicting herself

because she's over here being like, you know, it wasn't easy for me.

Like I want to, I want to change the model industry.

I want to make it more inclusive.

I want to make it better for women.

And then like you literally make it so much harder for them.

Like, so like you literally torture them.

That just like wasn't really.

That was just very interesting.

But I also think she was trying to, in her defense, I think it was done poorly.

I think she was trying to stimulate or simulate some of the.

Traumas that she and her fellow models have had in the industry.

And she was trying to show like what actual models went through with these

guinea pigs, which I think was hard because like.

The guinea pigs were just guinea pigs.

Like, so, and you're saying you didn't like it.

So then why are you doing it to them?

But it's like she was trying to show the world like, no, you go there

and they tell you that you're fat and they tell you have to shave off your entire head.

Yeah. And it's like, well, you're saying you don't like it.

So then why are you making a show that's doing that?

But I think, but I get that you went through that and you were trying to show

America that the dark, the quote unquote dark side.

Um.

And, you know, that's what she felt like it quote took to be a model.

But then you were given the platform to like change that.

And then you just like be the change you want to see in the world.

Yeah. So that's where I felt felt like her messaging is just kind of like not.

It's kind of I'm just confused that that's her messaging.

Well, that's what that's kind of what I'm saying.

Like a lot of the stuff that they did is it's it is inexcusable.

And so she's just like trying to get ahead of it.

And she's trying to say, well, I was I was trying to do this, but like,

there's just so many and that could be true for some of the examples.

But for some of the other examples, you're just trying to have the shock factor.

At the end of the day, they were trying to make good TV

and they did it at the expense of a lot of like young women, young, impressionable women.

Like I saw this I saw this real and it was kind of making fun of America's

next model and it was like model tells Tyra in a private interview

that her aunt died on a chicken bone eating a chicken bone.

And then Tyra next episode makes her pose the rotisserie chicken.

Like that's like the crazy stuff.

Like they just like exploited they exploited.

Yeah. No, they took they for sure did they for sure did.

No, I do I do want to watch.

I do. It's so interesting because I did love the show growing up.

Me too. Yeah.

So then I feel bad that I loved that.

So I think we're I think it's OK to be like it was such a different time.

So like I can't believe we but we all sat and watched that show

and we're OK with it at the time to some level.

Well, what I what I liked about the show, it wasn't the shock factor

of making people swap races or telling that was telling very thin women

that they need to lose weight.

What I liked was seeing the glamour and their poses and their reveals

and who I liked the innocent parts of it.

And I didn't need your craziness.

You're right. I liked when they did makeup.

They did a photo shoot.

Like it was like let's pose like animals.

Like everyone had a different animal.

Like I liked those those factors of it.

Yeah. So anyway, I'm watching.

I'm it's just bringing up a lot of things.

And I also find that I'm only on episode one.

But I find that Miss Jay is like a totally different person now

than they were back then.

Like he's so quiet and reserved.

And I'm like, you were like the biggest personality on the show.

And that's like totally not coming across so far.

It's like very strange.

Well, I do also like to assume that of what's it been?

Maybe 15, 20 years.

Oh, I think it's been like 20, 25 years.

It's been forever. I do.

I do like to think that people can change since then.

Yeah. So I don't know.

Again, haven't seen it.

Excited to watch it, though.

It's not just to like relive like the craziness.

So crazy.

You know what we're watching right now?

Me and Maddie is the newest season of Love is Blind.

Yeah, I almost thought about that.

And let me tell you why I think I don't like The Bachelor.

I never watched The Bachelor.

The Bachelorette.

I don't watch Love Island.

Like I don't like a lot of reality TV.

I love Love is Blind.

And the reason is it's actually real people.

Yeah, like it's not just a let me just get famous

and become an influencer and just like cause chaos.

It's like real people and like some people.

So I love real people.

So it's like, OK, I fall in love with you

because you're like you're normal, like you're cute.

And then you also see like the craziness of real people.

And you're like, oh, my gosh, you are a horrible person.

Yeah. And it's just like it's such good TV.

What city is this, Ohio?

I think it's Ohio. Yeah, it's Ohio.

Are you like in something that I'm noticing?

OK, it's so fun to watch Love is Blind

because some seasons you'll be like, OK, all the girls

are kind of cuckoo on this season.

And this season it's like a lot of the guys.

It's mostly guys that are like the problem ones.

And what I'm noticing a lot of them are saying is

they will say something so mean and horrible,

kind of like Tyra, actually, like a lot of body shaming.

And then they'll say, well, I just think that

like I would prefer a girl who, you know, does Pilates every every day.

But that's just me being honest.

And they always say, but that's just me being honest as if like your honesty

exempts you from being a bad person.

And he's like, you know what?

If me saying that makes me a bad person, like, at least I was being honest.

It's like, OK, and honestly, you are scum.

Well, they're missing the point of the show.

The point of the show is Love Blind, not.

No, I exactly like the looks of girls who do Pilates.

Also, do you do Pilates?

Like, and it's it's it's like it's the craziest thing.

And it's like it's so much look shaming and body shaming

on like the most pretty normal looking girls yet.

Yes. Yes.

So there's this to these girls' faces, girls that they have hooked up with

and have said I have proposed to and have said I love you to.

Oh, yeah, these boys suck.

No, they they suck, but they're just being honest.

So anyway, sorry, if no one wants love is blind.

I just like had to get that off my chest.

Such a good show.

OK, interesting, interesting.

Um, anyway, that's enough rambling for today's episode.

I know we wanted to get into our last three transactions

where we spill our recent bank account subtractions.

Yes, because like while we are trying not to bring a junk into our home,

we are still bringing things into our home.

But only the things that we need want.

Want to know only things that we need.

Yeah. For sure.

And maybe it may be one.

So let's do that.

So I actually have been transacting, unfortunately.

Do you want to start?

You can start.

Well, I'm going to start with I just placed like a big order for.

Like organizers within my home.

OK, organiser doesn't really feel like it totally like counts like.

Different different bins and stackables and things of that nature

so I can organize the places within my house.

So it's buying new stuff to make me more effective and organized.

OK. Mm hmm.

I did see the things you posted on your stories about your medicine.

That was a good idea.

Yeah, no, they're they're really good, like a clear organizer.

Organizers that are all the same.

I mean, it just there's it feels good.

So I have a lot of speaking engagements coming up,

a lot of filming, a lot of speaking.

So I did transact quite heavily.

And I worked with my stylist.

I like say my stylist, like it's bougie.

It's not. I have this girl named Izzy, who sometimes I'm like, hey,

can you put to me there like three outfits ASAP?

And she does that.

And she has me on my shop pop grind right now.

Shop pop. What's that?

So it's just like a website.

I think it's just kind of like a revolve, like it just carries a lot of brands.

OK. But I'm telling her, I'm like, I like to wear blue tones,

like blue tones, blue tones, blue tones.

She's like, I know you like blue tones.

She's like, but we need a secondary color.

That's not a neutral.

And I'm like, no, I don't think so.

She goes, no, trust me.

So she has me introducing a lot of maroon up into my upcoming speaking engagements.

OK. And I'm kind of like really excited about it.

So my most excited.

I haven't tried it on yet, but I bought like a tool.

Maroon skirt with blue polka dots,

which I know sounds kind of ugly when I'm describing it, but it's really cute.

I'm trying to find a picture for you.

Oh, shop pop has a maternity section.

So like this is what she wants me to like wear to the speaking thing.

Oh, interesting.

Or she wants me to wear like that seems more my vibe.

That seems less yours.

This that seems more your vibe.

Yeah, but the maroon's kind of fun.

Yeah, just like a pop on the room.

And just a pop.

OK, so did you order that stuff?

I ordered a ton of stuff.

OK, so TBD.

OK, well, speaking of events.

I imagine me sitting in my bed at 8 p.m.

Googling going out black maternity clothes.

I'm going to this bachelorette party at a couple in like two months.

We just got the what you're supposed to what you're supposed to wear.

So I need a blue swimsuit and I need a black going out outfit.

Oh, it's like when she wears white and you guys wear black.

Yeah, yeah.

So I think you should wear.

OK, I think I have an idea.

I mean, obviously I ordered something, but I think it's a black body

contrast black jean jacket done.

Yeah, no, it's a black body contrast.

It's I actually had one from my first pregnancy

and I guess I threw it away because I could not find it anywhere.

So I did have to reorder it, but it's like just from Amazon.

But also just goes to show if you accidentally throw

something away and your purge clean on your like shoot, I need that and whatever.

I'm just going to get it again.

So I ordered a black body con dress for my.

Well, I think that's versatile.

And then I think you like throw a sharon over it.

Yeah, and I also do that.

Yeah, no, for sure.

Like the layering is definitely going to be a look.

And I also was looking at some to that we're like a little bit more flowy

and more like sundress vibes because we are going to Florida and it is a dinner

and then and then afters going out after.

I do think I will skirt going out after because I don't think anyone wants

to be there with like a twenty two week pregnancy.

I think it's a little alarming to show up to the club.

It is. It is. Yeah.

And I'm not I don't.

It feels inappropriate.

I know that's not what you want me to what you're not

when you're not supposed to say that because probably no one can do anything

and you can but like.

I wouldn't go.

And again, like I would I would rather I think I'd rather just be

getting ice cream on the way home and sit in your bed.

It's insane. So anyway, I got a dress for that.

OK, mine's I don't have my I like wish I would have been more organized

and like my recent like speaking panel thing.

So like that was just like such a big haul.

But those haven't come in yet.

So don't feel like ready to speak on them.

But I did just place a big order of headbands for Hattie

because Hattie has officially transitioned from bows to headbands exclusively,

which I feel like, you know, around the age five,

like I think I mean, you can keep your kids in bows for longer.

But now that I have Libby and bows, like I was ready for Hattie,

that it's like we only had the one white bow, you know.

So it's like sorry, Libby has to wear it.

So Hattie is so and she's so beautiful in headbands.

But I like the headbands that have like the the knot at the top.

Mm hmm. I think those are the cutest.

So I bought a ginormous pack off Amazon.

Like every quarter under the sun.

Like they're so cheap.

They're just like a piece of plastic with like fabric wrapped around it.

Yeah. Not have every color. OK, perfect.

You know, she's like, they kind of hurt my ears.

And I'm like, well, you have to work like that.

And like that's fine.

Like for the picture and for church.

And then like that's all like we're not going anywhere.

We shouldn't wear a headband all day.

And there are no headbands are uncomfortable.

Please. That's what I'm saying.

When you find me a comfortable headband,

my sunglasses are the most comfortable headband I have.

Yeah, exactly.

So OK, the last thing that I got

is something about finding out that I was going to have another girl

made me feel totally more justified in spending more money on girl clothes.

Pajamas, well, I'll spoil it as it was Kate and Lane order.

I placed an order for Sloan and for James.

But then I'm also like, well, this is my only boy.

So I also that that I know of, like I might have more kids,

but like it kind of makes me want to splurge on him too.

So anyway, I placed a right.

Did a Kate and Lane order and something I didn't know Kate and Lane had

was they have adult pajamas too, and they have mommy and me pajamas.

So I got me and Sloan matching pajamas.

But mine are like the shorts with the button up in the collared shirt.

And Sloan's are also the shorts with the button up in the collared shirt.

It's so cute.

What is the print?

Oh, you you're going to hate it.

It's like pink and bows, and it's just like a very in your face.

Well, I'm happy that I'm I feel a lot better that yours is shorts.

Like that yours is not like the skin tights on the skin tights.

Like that's my that's my beef with little sleepies.

It's like stop.

No, no, no, the print is aggressive, but it is a like it's like a ruffle short.

Like it is a cuter pajama set.

Well, OK, I'm interested.

I and the pajamas are not like are typical.

Like they're like loose on the top, loose on the bottom.

Yes, yes, they're loose on the top, loose on the bottom.

Like they're the type of you've seen what pajamas I wear.

They're the type of pajamas I wear.

I know.

And see, that's very interesting because I need to find George George's new

pajamas and like I do feel like he's starting to give me a little bit of the

ick and like the little sleepies.

I mean, he's not giving me the ick, but like I can tell and like we I can tell

he's starting to like not love them because we also spent the night with some

friends a couple of weeks ago and like they have two boys their age and like

their boys were not wearing the skin tight pajamas.

I just I hate hearing the navigating the social aspects of parenthood

that you're going through.

Um, no, I know.

So I'm trying to find, but like I'm not ready to not have a matching

pajama for George yet, just like me personally, my journey, like I'm still

would like him to have a few pairs of matching pajamas.

So I'm trying to find like I need like loose pajama pants and like a shirt.

But I like can't find them.

So maybe I'll check out Kate and Lane.

I have no advice to give you.

I can tell.

That like makes me want to cry.

No, it's okay.

And I feel fine about it pregnancy.

Yeah, no, it's like I'm ready for him to be, to be there.

Yeah, cause I'm also like there, he's such a fun kid.

Like there's so many other aspects of his life I'm excited about.

Like right now he like wants a pocket knife so bad.

And like, I don't know when you buy a kid a pocket knife.

Like what age do you think is appropriate for a pocket knife?

Like a little Swiss army knife.

No, I would say the average, the average boy in my mind would be higher,

a higher age than George.

George is very responsible.

Yeah.

But like what if Fred gets ahold of it?

Right.

That would be more concerned.

What?

I mean, then it's like, well, Fred could get ahold of a kitchen knife if you

really wanted to.

This is true.

So I don't know.

But George is like, Mom, did I have a dream or did you say I was old enough

for a pocket knife?

Like that's what he told me.

And you're like, I don't know.

I'm like, ask your dad, George.

Like, I don't know.

That's yeah, that's a dad decision.

But yeah, his birthday is coming up in May and that's all he's been talking about.

He wants a pocket pocket knife.

Can you just face your George like with jeans and a pocket knife?

Yeah, he's really like, he's really into dressing up right now.

Like, and it's kind of annoying because it's like, he's outshining the rest of us.

Like, yeah, I'm wearing athlete, we're wearing a fish fry.

I'm wearing an athleisure.

Everyone else is just like their play clothes.

Tyler's in a hoodie and we're like, George, come on.

He's like, I'm almost ready.

Comes out cowboy hat, belt, button down, tucked in in his jeans.

It's his boots.

I'm just like, how can you like, yeah.

And how can you discourage that?

You can't.

I'm like, you look great.

Yeah.

I should have probably dressed up more.

Get in the car.

Yeah, it's just so funny.

Like, that's what he's into right now.

Like, I was expecting that.

Like, you've always heard of like a girl, like, you know, wanting to like wear a

dress or like where it sparkles.

No, George, like I picked out a polo for him to wear to church.

Like, just like a long sleeve polo.

And he's like, can I wear a shirt with buttons all the way down, mom?

I'm like, sure, George, I love that kid.

OK, I think I have one more.

Right.

Yeah, because I started.

OK, I like not an exciting one at all, but like the chokehold that's scrubbing

that scrubby daddies have on me is unbelievable.

I can't do dishes without them.

Really?

Yeah, I like never really bought them.

And then I like bought one at a whim and then I was like, oh, this is unbelievable.

Like, I love a scrubby daddy scrub daddy.

That's what it's called.

But like, they don't last that long.

Like, I'm probably going through eight a year at the moment and like $13.

Yeah.

No, they're probably a little less than that.

Because I think I got a four pack, three pack for $13.

So I'm just saying, like, I just had to make another repurchase on Amazon.

Like, I wish I had a subscribe and save option because I'm just kind of like

there with these things.

But like I like when mine starts to like lose its lose its scrubbiness.

I'm like, arg, I have to get the brush out.

I don't like the brush.

I like my scrub daddy.

I like a brush.

I mean, there's a reason they're viral.

Like, like, I'm not I'm not crazy because like there's a reason everyone

they're the reason they're the most popular sponge out there right now.

No, yeah, you're right.

So I don't want to hold into what sponge.

Like, I don't like holding.

Well, see, I don't wear dish gloves and mom was always a dish glove girl.

We never talk about that.

I never saw our mother and our own takes better care of ourselves than we do,

probably, because like, mom will like get in the pool and like, she'll keep her

hands up like this because she doesn't want her hands to get in the water.

Yeah.

You don't notice that she does that?

No, I know that she does that.

It's.

And her hands look young.

So maybe she's onto something.

Maybe we should be wearing gloves.

Well, maybe that's just a hack.

It's just like wear gloves.

When you're doing dishes, I just don't.

I don't even know if I don't even own a pair of dish gloves.

Is that crazy?

I do.

That is crazy.

Do you use them?

No, I don't use them as often as I should.

But I also think that if you're going to wear dish gloves, like you have to do

your dishes proper, like you have to clean everything else or just start with your dishes.

Like you can't keep putting them on and putting off.

I think I'm a little bit too ADHD to like sit there in front of and just do dishes.

Well, I think my kids are like, I think it's like I'm trying to do that.

And then like Libby's like trying to.

Sure.

Maybe that's it.

Yeah.

Okay.

Anyway, Kel, we have some advice questions.

If you want to answer some.

Love, I'd love to.

This comes from Jen, three across machine question mark.

We're tall.

Oh, okay.

Um, okay.

Jess, Jen.

So cute.

Okay.

I'm a long time listener.

Recently, my husband and I were on a, on a way up in North to ski and it was a Friday.

So naturally I turn on the podcast.

My husband's a very good sport and he, and he genuinely thoroughly enjoyed it.

He thanks you to our hysterical.

Now he's listening on his drives to sales calls so we can chat.

We are in the market for a new car.

We're both over six feet tall and have a baby.

I drive a Jeep Grand Cherokee and because of our super long legs, 38 inseam, we

did not get enough car seat clearance without having the passenger knees slammed

into the dash.

We are planning to have another baby next year and it won't be safe to have the

car seat behind the driver.

Um, in addition, the Jeep needs new brakes.

Okay.

So they're getting rid of the Jeep.

Um, we are planning to have three, maybe four kids.

We're looking at used atlases with a bench, but man, the lack of ceiling vents

makes me a tad nervous.

My husband keeps saying, honey, it was the car mom car of the year.

That means a lot.

I think we should go for it.

Our question is the Ford Explorer, is the Ford Explorer a three across machine?

Is there another car we should be looking at?

Our goal is to find a car for 35 K, but we could go up to 40 K if necessary.

My husband loves a good deal.

We were just talking about this.

I know.

Um, so the two three across machines in the midsize market are the pilot and the

Atlas.

Now, does that mean that other three across combos don't work?

No.

Those are the only two cars I would buy with the intention to do in the

midsize market.

Those are the only two cars I would buy to do three across.

I put the Ford Explorer in the category of, yeah, we could, if you have that car

and you have a surprise pregnancy, I could give you a combination that would work.

The difference between those cars and what I would call a machine is versatility.

It's like there's one combination in the Ford Explorer.

And as soon as someone's in a booster, it's going to be incredibly inconvenient.

Mm hmm.

Where I feel like the Atlas and the pilot offer more options and it's a car that

grows with the family better.

So like how many kids do they have now?

They have one baby.

Well, the thing is, it's like, I just don't know if you're buying your car for

four kids today.

Yeah.

And I know I have no one likes me to tell you that, but I think a more financially.

So first of all, I think if you were pregnant with your fourth right now, I

would tell you to go buy an Atlas, I think.

Third or fourth, I would, I think the Atlas has a much for as good as the

pilot benches, the Atlas bench is that much better.

The lack of ceiling vents is a bummer.

It is a con.

It is not, in my opinion, a deal breaker for a couple of reasons.

One, it affects rear facing kids the most.

And that's a short window.

Depending on where you live, it only affects them for a portion of the season.

So you're kind of talking about like, are we really not going to buy a car

because six months out of the years for the two years that your kids is

rear facing?

So a total of 12 months and you're going to keep the car for seven years.

They're going to be hot, which you can cool the car down.

Like they're also going to be fine.

Yeah.

To me, it's a lot more of a convenience feature.

Like I wish the Atlas had it, but you can't.

I would, I would choose a good bench to do over the ceiling vents for sure.

That's just my opinion.

But I feel like.

A smarter option for you guys would be, I would just go buy.

Like a beater, not even a beater, but like, why don't you go buy four floors or

cheap, why don't you go buy a 2017 Ford, what year's their Jeep?

It's.

Um.

I don't know that she didn't say.

Well, like go buy a year newer than your Jeep Ford Explorer and like keep that

thing for three years, four years.

And then when you're ready, when you're pregnant with your third, then let's do

the three across car because it's just like any car works for you.

No, depending on how quickly you're going to have the kids.

Like if you're telling me, no, like we're already trying for number two and

then we're going to do three right after sure, get the Alice.

But I would just say, like I always caution families against trying to buy

their quote unquote family car, their longterm car, their 10 year car when

they're such a young family like this, because things can just change.

Yeah.

What if it's not enough room for you?

The Alice was not enough room for me for four, three kids.

That's when I felt like I wanted to go full size.

Now that's just me, Sam on our team.

She has four kids.

She loves her Alice.

But like, I just don't know who you are and you don't know who you are.

Yeah.

So I think by the time you're ready to up to do the Atlas,

Volkswagen wakes up and puts ceiling vents in the third row or in the second row.

It could happen.

I just, you don't need an Atlas right now.

If you need a car, I think like, let's go buy a Ford Explorer.

Let's go buy a Ford.

I think a Ford Explorer would be a great one.

If you feel like you want the ceiling vents and the cheapest chips, the Ford

Explorer, I think, I think you answered that.

Well, I think you kind of like gave her her options.

I think her biggest holdup is the ceiling vents.

So if you think that's not that big of a deal, then she needs to make that

decision herself and maybe she can hold off for them.

Thank you.

Okay.

One more.

Hi, Kelly and Liz.

I love listening to your podcast and follow you both on Insta.

I have been thinking for a while about getting a new car, but I need some advice.

I have two kids, five and two, and do not plan to have more.

I currently drive a Tesla Model Y and my husband drives it.

A Toyota Tundra.

We both love these cars, but I'm wondering if I need to upgrade to something larger.

My sister lives close and we help watch each other's kids one to three times a week.

She has a two year old and a baby on the way.

Three across in the Tesla is terrible.

So I usually drive my husband's truck when I have my sister's kids.

Now that there will be four kids, I'm wondering if it's worth it to trade in

the Tesla for something larger or just make it work for the few days a week that

I have all four kids.

My sister just got a pathfinder with a third row and switching cars is an option

when I have all the kids, but it's difficult when we both leave early in the morning for work.

If getting a new car is what you recommend, what car would you suggest?

I like luxury cars or ones that feel that way.

We usually gravitate towards Lexus, Toyota and Honda.

So this one's interesting because from what I'm understanding, like it's not

this is like purely a want.

It's kind of like a one, but it's also kind of sounds like a convenience thing

because like she watches her sister's kids pretty regularly, it seems.

Did she say like it doesn't have to be electric or she doesn't care about that?

But she didn't say anything about electric.

I mean, there's a lot of there's so many different directions that you could go here.

Like again, I think I would default to like, OK, what's the most

what car offers like the most versatility that I feel like checks your boxes and your vibes?

I think the Lexus TX would be you would even get the hybrid would be a really good option.

That's a fabulous car.

Like people are sleeping on that car.

That's the best car in the Lexus lineup right now.

The TX like the plug in hybrid chefs, kiss, no notes.

So I think that could be a great option.

You know, same thing.

I think the Grand Highlander is fine.

You could get that or the Honda pilot.

I don't think she's going to like the pilot.

And she like likes luxury.

She's going to like take one look at the Honda pilot interior.

She said they gravitate towards the Honda is one of the brands they gravitate towards.

So that's. Oh, well, then I think you love the pilot.

You also love the Odyssey.

Yeah. You just like really want to like just do the most.

But I think the TX would get the TX is the most family, in my opinion,

the most family friendly luxury car in the midsize market.

Gives her the flexibility for the occasional use,

gives her the hybrid electric vibes and gives her the luxury.

Yeah, I feel I'm going to lock in with that.

Bada bing. Bada bing.

Those are our advice questions.

OK, well, now it's time for Ditch the Drive Through.

We give you an easy dinner recipe to mix it up to get you out of your dinner rut.

Now, I have really been quite on the food journey with my sugar-free journey

because I really just noticed that here's the sad part about me and food right now.

It's becoming a less big deal to me, which is sad and good.

Yeah, because like it's good because like I was like obsessing,

like what am I going to have for dinner?

I want to have something good for dinner tonight.

Like what should I make for dinner?

And it was like taking up so much in my headspace.

But then it was bad because like I do think meals and cooking can be really fun and enjoyable.

And I just there's still so much you can do when you're just not even sugar free.

Like you can basically eat anything except for sauces and sugar.

But I have just kind of noticed it's like kind of changed my excitement around food.

So all to say is I don't have that many exciting meals planned.

But like tonight for dinner, I have pork, pork and the crock pot.

Yum. And then we are doing rice and broccoli.

Yeah. And now I'm going to get out the sweet baby rays.

And like if anyone wants to do like a pork slider, like they can do that.

I'm going to probably throw some salsa on mine and hope that I am satiated.

You're kind of eating more like a bachelor.

Yeah, I kind of am.

You know, I've kind of complained about my family's eating,

but there is also something that is like really nice about the fact

that if I did just have to make ground beef,

like my husband would be thrilled to have ground beef, cheese and hot sauce.

Like that's all he needs.

And there was something that bothered me at first about that

because I was with you as like there's so much like I want you to be so excited

about all the toppings I'm cutting up and everything I'm doing.

There is something nice about like you're not going to be upset

if it's the bearman because I kind of had a busy day.

Well, in fact, he prefers that.

Yeah. And I just need to I think.

That I was just like using all foods is like everything had to be special.

Everything had to be a celebration.

Not even and not even that I was eating a bunch of junk.

It was just like, let's make something fun for dinner.

And it's like, no, there's nothing fun for dinner.

It's a meat and vegetable.

Mm hmm.

Grab a sauce if you need one.

Yeah. My kids have, I mean, basically the whole family,

except for like the kids are still having dessert

and the kids are still having a lot of fruit.

But we're really basically like eating more sugar free at night.

No one's complained.

Yeah. No one's complained.

We might we're going to do burger bowls again this week

because that was a really big hit last week.

And then I did want to make.

I want to do like a tie peanut sauce bowl.

And I am going to allow myself to use a little bit of honey in that sauce

because I get just needs.

You can't it's like peanut butter.

I'll do unsweetened peanut butter, soy sauce, rice, vinegar, garlic, lime.

And I am going to add the honey.

And then I'm going to do chicken like all like the good.

I'm going to I want to get a I saw this real.

I want to get like a ribbonizer for carrots.

And oh, yeah.

Carrots, cucumbers, chicken, sprouts, peanut sauce.

Oh, that sounds delicious.

I know. Does that sound good?

Yeah. That's not special.

Maybe maybe you only need like your special meals

like once or twice a week.

And then every other weekday, it's just like protein, veggie, starch.

Yeah. So tonight I'm nervous about the pork

because like I just am really going to want.

I mean, the best part about pulled pork is we have you raise.

Yeah.

So that sucks.

You're right.

But I'm going to do salsa and sour cream and see if that does anything for me.

Well, and you know what smaller Sam PCOS does a lot is she will take

like her hot sauce or her salsa and her sour cream and she'll mix them together.

So that way it's one sauce.

Yeah, that that and that was a little bit more fun.

Yeah, that would help me.

That would help me.

Yeah. And then I just need to place like a primal kitchen market order

because they have so many sauces.

They're just like so hard to find.

But they have a sugar free tart sauce, which I would like to try.

So yeah, that's up with me.

OK, that's our episode.

And that's our episode.

So thank you so much for listening to the Carpool Podcast

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Jeep Grand

bench seat

ceiling vents

Ford Explorer

three across machine

Honda Pilot

Volkswagen Atlas

beater

family car

full size car

Tesla Model

Toyota Tundra

Nissan Pathfinder

third row

Lexus

Lexus TX

plug-in hybrid

Toyota Grand Highlander

Toyota Grand Highlander

Honda Odyssey

Lexus RX

hybrid electric

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