Kelly and Liz road-trip to Cedar Rapids, Iowa, then decompress in a hotel—swapping travel “gear upgrades” (Hilton points, bigger carry-ons, new suitcases) and joking about not podcasting while driving. They talk conference life, including Joanna Gaines being nearby, and tease their “keys, please” car-shopping concept plus community reactions to luxury-only content. The conversation shifts to real-world parenting mindset (“six months away from a different season”), walk routines, and planning a swanky dinner. They also share industry news: GM possibly reviving the body-on-frame GMC Jimmy, and they preview an auto-show VIP night with charity plans for Catcheride.
"like when she was on HGTV and stuff, [396.0s] because her transformations were the most dramatic. [399.3s] Like they were amazing."
HGTV is a TV channel known for home makeovers and reality shows. Here, the hosts are just talking about that style of show and how different people on it feel.
HGTV is a home-and-lifestyle TV network, and in this segment it’s used as shorthand for makeover-style reality programming. The hosts are comparing different personalities and “transformation” styles, not discussing cars directly.
"Years ago, we filmed a pilot [433.5s] for like house hunters for cars basically. [435.1s] And we were working with a production company."
This is a playful description of a car-shopping reality format, analogous to “House Hunters” but focused on vehicles. It’s a media concept rather than a specific automotive term, but it frames how the “car mom” idea would work.
Topic
short series
"But yeah, it would have been cool, [452.0s] but it was going to be like a short, like shorts, [454.0s] like a short series, but I don't know."
They’re talking about making a limited-run show. Instead of many episodes over a long time, it would be a small set of episodes.
They’re describing the project as a short series rather than a long-running show. In entertainment terms, it usually means a limited number of episodes with a defined arc.
Topic
workshopping it
"We're still workshopping it, but yeah, it's cute."
They haven’t fully finalized the plan yet. They’re still trying ideas and tweaking it.
“Workshopping” means they’re still developing and refining the idea. It suggests they’re testing concepts and adjusting based on feedback.
"because I can already like, so the last one we did was luxury cars with Merrick. And then this other one happened to be your friend who has also happened to be in the luxury market."
Luxury cars are the more upscale versions of cars, usually with nicer interiors and more comfort features. Reviews of luxury cars often focus on how nice they feel to drive and live with.
“Luxury cars” are vehicles positioned with higher-end materials, comfort features, and typically more advanced tech than mainstream models. In reviews, luxury-car coverage often emphasizes ride quality, interior experience, and how well the car justifies its price.
"Like please find another person in my space who's ever reviewed a used car, who has lists for used cars, who tells you the best car that you, the best car for your first time is the car you already have."
A used car is one that someone else already bought before you. When people review used cars, they usually talk about whether it’s a good deal and what problems to watch for.
A “used car” is a vehicle that’s already been owned and has gone through at least one sales cycle. Used-car reviews often focus on value, reliability history, and what trim levels are actually worth paying for.
"Like please find another person in my space who's ever reviewed a used car... Who tours a trim that's not the highest. Who actually suggests the mid to lower trim levels."
A trim is basically the version of the same car with different features. Some versions cost more because they add extra stuff, so choosing a mid or lower trim can be a smarter deal.
“Trim” is the specific equipment level of a model—think different packages, features, and sometimes different engines or drivetrains. Higher trims usually cost more, so recommending mid or lower trims often comes down to value: getting the features you’ll actually use without paying for extras.
Topic
car pullers
"People can let us know if they want us to delay it [602.7s] or if the car pullers can just rise up [604.6s] with the brains that I know you have."
They’re talking about people who help with cars—like getting them, bringing them around, or helping film them. It’s basically a community role around car content.
“Car pullers” sounds like a community term for people who help source, retrieve, or showcase cars for content. In car culture, that role often overlaps with finding vehicles, arranging access, and coordinating filming or delivery.
Concept
Instagram insights
"And so I can tell in my insights, [612.7s] I can tell when a real reaches more [614.5s] of my non audience than my audience and it's jarring."
Instagram insights are the app’s built-in stats. They help you see whether your posts are reaching the people you want to reach.
Instagram “insights” are analytics that show who is seeing your posts and how your content is performing. Creators use this to judge whether content is reaching their intended audience versus a broader or different crowd.
Topic
keys please 2.0
"But I am excited for keys please 2.0 to launch. [625.4s] And I do have a lot of people who I need to go through [628.3s] who are also looking for cars."
It sounds like a car-related show or series, and “2.0” means a newer version. They’re saying they’re excited for the next update.
“Keys please 2.0” appears to be a branded show or content series related to car keys/vehicle access. The “2.0” suggests an updated version, likely with a new format or rollout plan.
"Literally didn't make, I have a hybrid and I filled it up the day before we left. Didn't make a dent."
A hybrid uses a gas engine plus an electric motor. The electric part helps the car use less fuel, especially in certain driving situations.
A hybrid vehicle uses both an internal-combustion engine and an electric motor to improve efficiency. In practice, hybrids can show big differences in fuel use depending on driving conditions and how much the system can rely on electric assist.
"I was tracking, I reset the thing and I was tracking the MPGs in the carnival because I was curious. And we were getting around 32, 33."
MPGs means how many miles you can drive using one gallon of gas. They’re watching it to see how efficient the car is on their trip.
MPGs (miles per gallon) is a fuel-economy measure that tells you how far the car can go on one gallon of fuel. The hosts are tracking MPGs to compare how efficiently the car performs on their specific route.
"Here's the thing. I also didn't like the drive of the Sienna last week. I don't."
They’re talking about a Toyota Sienna minivan. They didn’t enjoy how it drove on their earlier trip, and they’re comparing that to what they feel now.
The Toyota Sienna is a minivan known for offering hybrid powertrains. The hosts mention not liking the drive of the Sienna “last week,” contrasting it with their current experience in the Carnival.
"like a Pathfinder and the Kia carnival feel the same."
The Kia Carnival is a minivan built for families. The hosts are debating whether it feels like an SUV (like the Pathfinder) or like a true minivan.
The Kia Carnival is a minivan designed for families, emphasizing easy access, seating flexibility, and a smooth ride. Here it’s compared directly to the Nissan Pathfinder to highlight how different vehicle types can feel similar—or not—depending on the driver.
"A full-size SUV because let me tell you like a Pathfinder and the Kia carnival feel the same."
A Nissan Pathfinder is a roomy family SUV. The hosts are saying that, for them, the Pathfinder feels more like an SUV than a minivan does.
The Nissan Pathfinder is a full-size SUV known for family-friendly space and a comfortable ride. In the conversation, it’s used as a reference point for how an SUV feels compared with a minivan.
"Like how you feel in a car is everything. That's why I can't believe sometimes when I used to sell cars there are people who'd be like, well, I don't need to drive it... You have to drive it."
The hosts emphasize that how a car feels to you matters, and that you should drive it rather than relying on assumptions or a passenger’s opinion. This is why dealerships push for a real test drive: comfort, visibility, steering feel, and seating position can’t be fully judged without being behind the wheel.
"Like you have to go get it on slow roads, get it over, get it on a highway, merge, park. Like, please, please, please, please. You have to drive."
Parking is just stopping the car and making sure it’s secure. You want to line up with the space and make sure the car can’t roll.
“Park” is the driving task of bringing the car to a stop and securing it for stationary use. In practice, it can involve choosing the right spot, aligning the car, and using parking brakes and gear selection correctly.
"Like, please, please, please, please. You have to drive. Yeah. Totally. So anyway, yeah. Speaking of drive, we just got up here. Uh-huh. And now we are kind of just taking a beat."
Merging is when you join another lane of traffic. You should look for a safe opening, match the speed of the cars around you, and use your mirrors and turn signal.
“Merge” refers to the driving maneuver of entering or joining traffic flow, typically from an on-ramp or lane change. It usually requires matching speed, checking mirrors/blind spots, and choosing a safe gap.
"We resealed it last year. Didn't do much of anything. Like there's loose rock everywhere."
Resealing is like putting a protective layer on top of asphalt. It can help the surface last longer, but if the driveway is already badly damaged underneath, resealing won’t do much.
Resealing is applying a protective coating to asphalt to slow water penetration and reduce surface cracking. It can make a driveway look better, but it doesn’t fix deeper structural problems like base failure or major dips and holes.
"Because they have to rip up our current asphalt and they have to like mill it. Then they have to repack it"
Asphalt is the common black material used for roads and driveways. Over time it can wear out and get bumpy or crack, especially if it wasn’t maintained.
Asphalt is a paving material made from aggregate (rock) mixed with bitumen (a petroleum binder). When driveways are described as “original” and in poor shape, it often means the asphalt has aged and degraded, leading to cracks, dips, and loose aggregate.
"Because they have to rip up our current asphalt and they have to like mill it. Then they have to repack it"
“Mill it” means they grind off the worn top layer of the driveway. That way the new surface can go on evenly instead of over the bad stuff.
“Milling” (milling the asphalt) means grinding up the top layer of existing pavement to remove damaged surface material and create a consistent base for the new layers. It’s commonly done before repaving so the new asphalt can bond properly and sit at the right height.
Term
repack it
"Then they have to like mill it. Then they have to repack it"
“Repack it” usually means they put the base material back and press it down firmly. That helps keep the driveway from getting bumpy or developing holes later.
“Repack it” typically refers to compacting and restoring the underlying base material after the old asphalt is removed or milled. Proper compaction helps prevent future sinking, potholes, and uneven wear.
Topic
VIP ticket nights
"And if you haven't booked your VIP ticket nights let me just kind of like, grease the tracks for you. Well and there, I think there's only like 50 tickets left."
They’re describing special VIP nights where you get extra access to the event. It sounds like there are limited tickets and VIP guests get more activities than general admission.
The hosts are talking about VIP ticket nights for an event, likely tied to an auto show experience. In this context, VIP nights are about access—extra activities, tours, and interaction with the hosts.
"to take pictures to answer your questions to give you a tour of the auto show will be so fun."
An auto show is a public event where automakers and aftermarket companies display vehicles, concepts, and new models. The hosts mention giving tours and taking questions, which is typical of how auto shows are experienced.
"what is your girl love more than anything? A dinner auction. Oh yeah. And I said how can I make this feel more like a dinner auction"
They’re talking about a fundraiser where people bid on a dinner or dinner-related experience. It’s an event format, not a car feature.
A dinner auction is a fundraising event where guests bid on experiences—here, framed as something the hosts want to make feel more like a dinner auction. While not a car-specific term, it’s part of the event structure around the auto-show trip.
"It's an amazing organization called Catcheride. Catcheride Network and they help transportation insecure families and people get reliable transportation."
Catcheride Network is a charity that helps people who can’t reliably get around. They arrange transportation so families can reach places like medical appointments.
Catcheride Network is a nonprofit focused on helping transportation-insecure families get reliable rides to important appointments and destinations. In the segment, they’re described as providing transportation support for people who don’t have dependable access to a car.
"But everyone thinks it's Honda for some reason... I will just say it's not Honda."
They’re talking about Honda, a car company. People think Honda is involved, but the speaker says it’s not.
Honda is the Japanese automaker being discussed as the likely manufacturer behind a “no” response. The hosts clarify that it’s not Honda, but the brand is central to the speculation in this segment.
"Okay, so interesting. So who am I always harping on to do better in like one specific sector of auto? Tesla."
Tesla is a company that makes electric cars. The hosts are talking about what Tesla should improve in the auto industry, like how well their cars or business practices are doing in a certain area.
Tesla is an electric-vehicle (EV) and energy company that’s heavily influenced modern auto industry trends. When hosts say they’re “harping on” Tesla to do better in a sector, they’re usually referring to how Tesla’s approach affects competition, technology, or customer experience in that area.
"I'm always saying that GM doesn't have, where's their off-roader?"
GM is the big automaker behind brands like Chevrolet and GMC. The speaker is basically saying GM doesn’t offer enough off-road-focused vehicles.
GM (General Motors) is the parent company behind brands like Chevrolet, GMC, Buick, and Cadillac. The host uses GM as a shorthand for the company’s overall lineup and argues it lacks a dedicated off-road competitor.
"I'm always saying that GM doesn't have, where's their off-roader? Where, like, where's their Bronco?"
The Bronco is Ford’s off-road SUV. It’s the kind of vehicle people buy specifically for dirt roads and trails, not just commuting.
The Ford Bronco is Ford’s modern off-road SUV line, originally known for rugged, trail-focused capability. When someone asks “where’s their Bronco,” they’re comparing GM’s lineup to Ford’s dedicated off-road model.
"Where, like, where's their Bronco? Where's their Land Cruiser?"
The Land Cruiser is a Toyota SUV known for being tough and capable off-road. People often think of it as a go-anywhere, long-lasting vehicle.
The Toyota Land Cruiser is a long-running, body-on-frame-style SUV reputation built around durability and serious off-road ability. Mentioning it frames the conversation around “real” off-road offerings versus more crossover-like options.
"Where's their Land Cruiser? Where's their Nissan X Terra? Like, where's their car?"
The Nissan XTerra is an SUV made by Nissan that’s built for people who want a tougher, adventure-ready vehicle. It’s designed to handle rougher roads better than many regular family cars. The podcast mentions it as a possible “where’s their car?” option in that category.
The Nissan XTerra is a midsize SUV known for a more rugged, outdoors-oriented design and a body-on-frame layout in many model years. It’s often brought up when people talk about “real” off-road-capable vehicles, especially in comparison to other SUVs that may feel more road-focused. In the podcast, it’s mentioned as a specific alternative to a Land Cruiser-style vehicle.
"But we got an exciting story from Motor Trend. GMC is bringing back, I need your full attention for this."
Motor Trend is a car magazine/website that covers new vehicles and automotive news. The hosts are saying their upcoming story comes from that source.
Motor Trend is an automotive media outlet that publishes reviews, news, and long-term testing. When the host says they have a story from Motor Trend, they’re signaling the segment is based on reported automotive news.
"[2781.5s] GMC is bringing back the Jimmy.
[2785.6s] Oh, the Jimmy.
[2788.0s] Look at it."
GMC is talking about bringing back a model name called the “Jimmy.” The hosts are mostly joking about how funny and memorable the name is, not getting into specs.
GMC’s “Jimmy” is a nameplate that’s being brought back, and it’s historically associated with GMC’s compact SUV/truck-era branding. In this segment, the hosts are reacting to the idea of reviving the Jimmy name and how it sounds.
"[2816.4s] Never forget when Lincoln used to have a truck
[2817.9s] called the Mark.
[2819.3s] That's a bad one."
Lincoln used to have a vehicle called the “Mark.” The conversation is using it as a comparison for what they think are good—or bad—vehicle names.
Lincoln’s “Mark” was a long-running luxury model line, known for being a more upscale alternative within Ford’s luxury lineup. Here, it’s mentioned as an example of a truck/model name that the hosts don’t like.
"...is there a real chance that GM is about to revive a once popular Jimmy..."
“Reviving” a nameplate usually means bringing back a model name (and sometimes the original design philosophy) after it was discontinued. In this context, the hosts are discussing whether GM would reintroduce the Jimmy with the classic truck-based character rather than a purely modern reinterpretation.
"...revive a once popular Jimmy as a body on frame off-road SUV?"
Body-on-frame means the car has a separate “truck frame” underneath, and the body bolts to it. It’s common on SUVs and trucks that are meant to handle rough roads and towing.
Body-on-frame is a construction method where the vehicle’s body sits on a separate ladder frame, like many trucks. It typically improves durability for off-road use and towing, and it can make the ride feel more “truck-like” compared with unibody designs.
"It says, unlike the current Chevy Blazer, the new GMC Jimmy will answer the longstanding calls for GM to build a real off-road SUV."
An off-road SUV is meant for dirt roads, trails, and rough ground. It’s not just for looks—it's built to handle traction and bumps better than a regular street-focused SUV.
An off-road SUV is designed to handle rough terrain better than typical crossovers, often with features like higher ground clearance, stronger suspension setups, and drivetrain options suited for traction. In this discussion, “real off-road SUV” is shorthand for a vehicle that can actually go off pavement, not just look sporty.
"It says, unlike the current Chevy Blazer, the new GMC Jimmy will answer the longstanding calls for GM to build a real off-road SUV."
A Chevy Blazer is a popular SUV model. Here, they’re basically saying the current Blazer isn’t quite the kind of rugged off-road SUV they want.
The Chevrolet Blazer is a midsize SUV that’s been offered in multiple generations, and in this segment it’s used as a contrast point to a more off-road-focused SUV. The hosts are implying that the current Blazer doesn’t fully satisfy the “real off-road SUV” expectation.
"I mean, I guess these are just renderings or what these are. I mean, I guess these are just AI images."
AI images are pictures made by software, not actual photos of a real car. The hosts are wondering if these are just guesses about what a vehicle could look like.
AI images are computer-generated visuals created by generative AI models, often used to mock up how a future vehicle might look. The hosts question whether the pictures are true renderings or just AI concepts, which matters because AI art can be misleading without confirmation from the automaker.
"but I can tell you I'm going to the IIHS.
Yeah.
And a manufacturer invited me to see a Carby Crash Tested."
IIHS is a safety organization that tests cars after crashes in controlled ways. They give ratings so you can see which vehicles are safer in real-world crash situations.
IIHS stands for the Insurance Institute for Highway Safety. It’s a nonprofit that evaluates vehicle crashworthiness using standardized tests and publishes safety ratings that many shoppers use to compare cars.
"And a manufacturer invited me
to see a Carby Crash Tested.
That's really cool.
No.
It's dream status."
Crash testing means a car is put through crash simulations to see how safely it protects people. It helps determine which cars do better in real crashes.
“Crash tested” refers to a vehicle being evaluated in controlled crash scenarios to measure how well occupants are protected. These tests typically look at injury risk, structural integrity, and how safety systems perform.
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Welcome to the Carpool podcast with Kelly.
Years ago, we filmed a pilot for house hunters for cars, basically.
And we were working with a production company.
I actually love the people we worked with.
And no one picked it up.
And Liz.
I'm so excited to sleep in a hotel room tonight.
I hope Maddie's hearing this.
Maddie, I just want you to know,
thank you for staying home with the kids.
And also, I'm going to sleep like a rock tonight.
Your mom time off starts now.
Welcome back to the Carpool podcast with Kelly.
And Liz.
The vibes are different.
We are remotely recording.
It's the carpool on the road.
We carpooled.
We did.
We didn't literally record on the road.
I did consider it.
But upon further reflection, we were like,
maybe if we drove and podcasted,
it would be a little bit dangerous
and not really a good look for the car mom.
Exactly.
And yeah, like I would have had to held the mic.
So I would have had to do one hand of the driving.
So we just completely faded that.
And instead, we are lounging on hotel beds.
And it is euphoric, I think is the only way to describe it.
We just completed a four hour road trip from St. Louis
to Cedar Rapids, Iowa.
We're sitting in a lovely renovated double tree by Hilton.
It's lovely.
Speaking of travel things, I need
to become a Hilton rewards member or something.
You should.
Mattie's one of those.
And he always asks for an upgrade.
And they usually give it to him.
I am leaving money on the table.
I need to get my life together.
I need to get a credit card.
I need to get pre-check.
And I need to become a Hilton member.
I also, big news for me, just ordered a bigger carry-on.
Because Continental gives me this carry-on.
And then I just thought that was the size of carry-ons.
But then I would notice people taking huge suitcases.
And I'm like, well, I need to use some more room.
So not only, not freaking only, did I buy a new carry-on.
I also bought a new bag to go on top of my carry-on.
Or to match it.
Yeah, as a double.
I feel like it's time.
You have a lot of travel in the future.
You've been really ramping up your travel.
You are a businesswoman who travels.
I just think you need.
I need the gear.
You don't need a gifted suitcase
that says Continental on it and your old daggers
over diaper bag.
No, he's not going to do that.
I just think you could present yourself
a little bit differently.
I totally agree.
So what was the brand of choice?
Yeah, no, I'm happy you asked.
So I ended up going with a Quince suitcase.
Oh, no way.
Yeah, Quince of suitcases.
Quince of suitcases.
Quince is becoming like,
like what's a store that has everything?
Like just, I can't.
I just ordered some candles from there the other day.
Of course you did.
Like I'm telling you, they're about like.
I ordered, my order was like a linen shirt for James
and like three candles.
And they're free shipping.
So it's like you don't need to order a lot.
Like you can go there just for a candle
and like it's like ordering from Amazon.
Like it's going to be there in two days
and the shipping was free.
That's so interesting.
Well, I've just been ordering.
I just ordered because you know,
like my toxic trade is like
I really have trouble just checking out with one thing.
I know.
Also checked out to like skater dresses
for Hattie and Libby
and they look like Bowden or T collection.
Like they're darling.
Anyway, so Quince had it's at a large carry on
and they had the perfect shade of blue.
Okay, cute.
But like in a, but still like
not necessarily a professional
but like a bun kind of way.
And then I got a black bag to go on top from
base or away.
It was one of those things.
They look like the exact same bag.
You know, they've got the shoe compartment.
They got the strap to go over the handle.
Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
Catch me like really ramping it up.
And I'm just always looking to like refine my brand.
Like, you know, I only like to present myself in public
in public settings in a blue.
Yeah, it's just it's good for the brand.
And I needed to appear as a more professional traveler.
I agree.
So happy for you.
Yeah, happy for me too.
So that was my big news.
And yeah, I'm kind of, I'm kind of on tour right now,
to be honest.
You're like a bus club, another club, no sleep.
Like because from this trip,
I have to fly directly to Chicago for another event.
Yeah.
So Liz will be road tripping home solo.
I know, bummer.
It won't be a bummer.
I need to download a book tonight.
Someone sent me,
cause you know, I was talking about systems the other day
and someone was like, this book was so great.
I listened to the audio version
and I'm going to re-listen to it
because I need to like remember what the systems are.
What's it called?
Well, I screenshotted it because I couldn't.
Are you sure that's what you want to do?
You don't want to get like a fun like,
just like storybook to listen to.
You know what, like when I'm really interested
in something like systems or organizing my home,
like I really just want to consume content like that.
Okay, that's fine.
She said it was called
how to manage your home without losing your mind.
It has so many tangible takeaways.
Well, let's get the author on the podcast
if you like the book.
Cause you know, we are-
Dana K. White writes books about decluttering,
but she has one called.
Okay, there we go.
Let's get Dana on the podcast.
Well, we'll see if we like the book.
Totally.
But if we don't,
maybe she can come on and defend herself.
So yeah, so Liz, so we,
so we're here for a women lead change,
kind of like major conference.
Like I don't know if you guys heard
but like Joanna Gaines is also
at the same conference we are, so.
Yeah, I think we've like beat that horse so dead, but.
Well, just in case anyone hadn't heard,
like we are sharing the stage is an over exaggeration,
but like we are speaking on the same stage
at separate times.
I believe, yes, yes, yes.
I do think she's like flying in the day,
like right before her speech
and like we will be,
you will be flying away and I will be driving home.
So I don't think we're actually gonna get a meter, but.
Yeah, I don't see her being the type to like
come to the optional reception dinner tonight.
You don't think she's staying
in the double tree by Hilton tonight?
I think she's flying and flying out on her PJ.
I bet, yeah, for sure.
Which good for her.
Yeah.
Good for her.
I just watched, I think I told you this.
She's a mother of like seven.
No, I know.
Like she's busy.
She's busy and she's Joanna Gaines.
Like talk about someone who's got irons in the fire.
Yeah.
Jay Gaines.
And I just watched her like special
where they'd reach their mountain home.
I love, it's not really my exact style,
but I love how she transforms a space.
Like no one transforms a space more.
Like I don't know if her decorating and it's beautiful.
It's just not my vibe.
But it's amazing what she can do.
She's always just been the most fun to watch on,
like when she was on HGTV and stuff,
because her transformations were the most dramatic.
Like they were amazing.
You've watched some people on HGTV
and you're like, you have no,
like this is terrible, you have no taste.
Like she is something different.
I'm ready for HGTV to kind of shake it up Chicago.
Yeah, I agree.
It's kind of the same formula, different personalities.
Like can we do something new?
It really does feel like they are missing an opportunity
to like take over, like buy us out for keys, please
with the car mom.
Like the car mom takes someone car shopping.
Well, no one knows this.
Maybe we'll do, but we filmed a pilot.
Have we ever said this?
It was years ago.
Years ago, we filmed a pilot
for like house hunters for cars basically.
And we were working with a production company.
I actually loved the people we worked with
and no one picked it up.
I will say we didn't like seek this out.
Like they sought the car mom out.
So we didn't have any money invested in it.
But yeah, it would have been cool,
but it was going to be like a short, like shorts,
like a short series, but I don't know.
I think keys, please could be big.
Keys, please has legs
and some people didn't like the name,
but they also, I'm sorry,
don't tell me you don't like it
and then not give me a better suggestion.
Well, what do you want?
Keys, please.
I'll take the keys, please.
I'll say yes to the dress.
I'll take the keys, please.
That was kind of our thoughts.
Like at the end, I will be like,
so what do you think?
Do you want the keys?
Please, there's something there.
We're still workshopping it, but yeah, it's cute.
It's cute.
So anyway, keys, please should be launching soon.
Yeah, I think it's fully added in.
I just like, I go back and forth
because I can already like,
so the last one we did was luxury cars with Merrick.
And then this other one happened to be your friend
who has also happened to be in the luxury market.
So I just like can already see the people on Instagram
being like, you only do luxury, like your own life.
I know, and I'm telling you there's,
I can take a lot of comments.
That comment makes me so mad
because I personally feel like I go above and beyond
to cover cars for every budget.
Like please find another person in my space
who's ever reviewed a used car,
who has lists for used cars,
who tells you the best car that you,
the best car for your first time
is the car you already have.
Like I'm sorry.
Who tours a trim that's not the highest.
Who actually suggests the mid to lower trim levels.
I'm sorry, like it shouldn't bother me
because it's so unbelievably untrue.
Yeah.
But I, people have different budgets.
People have different, and that's not your fault.
No, it's not their fault.
And it's not their fault.
No, like their situations are both very unique.
And I think it bothers me so much
because it just comes down to like,
I guess people being jealous or unhappy
or making assumptions.
But like, I don't know what to tell you.
These two people, like one was Merrick.
She's an influencer.
Of course I'm going to do her.
The other is a dear friend.
Of course I'm going to do her.
And she happened to be car shopping.
And it's like, the other thing is like,
we want to make sure,
like we kind of want to have a baseline
of like knowing the person to make sure that
you're not this, the energy is going to be right
to like show this kind of stuff.
So, and they have to be willing to do it as well.
So what I, I haven't edited.
I just like, wasn't sure if we wanted to fill,
try and find another person and like film
another one of like, not luxury,
just to avoid the comments.
People can let us know if they want us to delay it
or if the car pullers can just rise up
with the brains that I know you have.
Cause I'm not worried about the car pullers.
And what's been interesting lately is my contents
has been landing on different sides of Instagram.
And so I can tell in my insights,
I can tell when a real reaches more
of my non audience than my audience and it's jarring.
You can get a little jarring.
Yeah.
But also say my problem's not yours.
But I am excited for keys please 2.0 to launch.
And I do have a lot of people who I need to go through
who are also looking for cars.
Okay.
So yeah, so the options are there.
Like we just, it's just a matter of filming it.
It's a matter of filming it,
it's a matter of a day.
And like things are just like so busy right now.
But again, our problem's not yours.
You know, I was listening back to our episode
and I was cracking up about how we were like,
I'm just looking for like more like grocery store conversations
because I can't always like tell people
like what's actually going on in my life.
So to give you guys an update,
like the garden is planted.
The garden looks great.
It looks so great.
It looks so intentional.
It does.
Tyler did a really good job.
Yeah, I know.
I didn't do it.
He did tell her to do it.
But I did pick out the plants.
I do worry I overbought,
but the problem is the plants are so small,
but I understand they're gonna get so big.
Yeah, I think you're fine.
Yeah.
I don't know, I don't know anything about gardening.
I don't either.
But we are starting to get,
we found big cherry tomato plants
that kind of already established ones.
Okay.
We're starting to get like a little bud.
I'm gonna be swimming in bell peppers though.
But I love bell peppers.
My kids love bell peppers, so I'm excited.
I'm telling you, my mother-in-law plants cherry tomatoes
and she will literally drop me off a box
of like a hundred little cherry tomatoes
cause she's like overwhelmed with the amount that grows.
I see, I just can't imagine that.
Like I'm struggling.
And they're like amazing.
They're so good.
Like I literally eat them like candy.
Like I like, I keep a little bowl.
I don't even, maybe I could do salt.
I don't put anything on them.
And I just pop them in my mouth like chips or candy.
It's amazing.
Yummy.
I love that.
So that's what's really new with me.
And then Elizabeth and I just kind of road tripped up here.
We took her carnival.
Literally didn't make, I have a hybrid
and I filled it up the day before we left.
Didn't make a dent.
Our four hour drive did not make a dent in my gas mileage.
It didn't make a dent.
I mean, you lost a quarter of a tank of gas.
I lost a quarter of a tank of gas.
We drove four hours.
Kelly, didn't make a dent.
I'm not going to have to refill it on my way back.
That's incredible.
I was tracking, I reset the thing
and I was tracking the MPGs in the carnival
because I was curious.
And we were getting around 32, 33.
Feels good.
It feels really good.
I'm very, I'm proud of the carnival.
Yeah.
You said you didn't love the drive and I don't mind it.
Here's the thing.
I also didn't like the drive of the Sienna last week.
I don't.
You don't like minivan drives.
It's not that I don't like them.
I'm just, it's just not what I'm used to.
I am more comfortable.
It's just a preference thing.
I'm more comfortable in an SUV.
A full-size SUV because let me tell you
like a Pathfinder and the Kia carnival feel the same.
Not to me.
Oh, they do to me.
But that's why it's like, it's so personal.
Yeah.
Like how you feel in a car is everything.
That's why I can't believe sometimes when I used to sell cars
there are people who'd be like, well, I don't need to drive it.
And I literally was like,
no, I'm like not selling you a car.
You don't drive.
Like I'm sorry.
Like I'm not doing that.
You have to drive it.
You have to drive it.
Yeah.
And you have to like drive it.
Like you can't just piddle around the parking lot.
Like you have to go get it on slow roads,
get it over, get it on a highway, merge, park.
Like, please, please, please, please.
You have to drive.
Yeah.
Totally.
So anyway, yeah.
Speaking of drive, we just got up here.
Uh-huh.
And now we are kind of just taking a beat.
I had, you can go ahead.
No, you're fine.
We're taking a beat.
We have like a little reception today.
And then Liz and I made a swanky dinner reservation.
A swanky.
We, I was fine trying to find,
I like literally searched date night ideas
and Cedar Rapids.
Cause I'm like, we want a nice restaurant.
Like it's just me and her like.
No, here's the thing.
Our husbands aren't nice.
Our husbands don't appreciate a nice restaurant.
Yeah.
And like Elizabeth does and I do.
And we don't get out much.
Yeah.
And we don't get instant business expense.
Like there's no the name that we don't need to justify.
And also like your diet is kind of restrictive.
So like kind of a steakhouse is the perfect place
for you to go.
So you can get like a ribeye.
Exactly.
So we found a swanky restaurant
that's like in an old bank.
Yeah.
So we'll be going there.
And I thought it'd be fun to do like,
you know, just something fun and then with my sister.
And I said, why don't we get each other ready?
Why don't you let me do your makeup
and you do my makeup?
No.
And she said, no.
No, I don't want to.
It's going to take too long, Kel.
I don't want to.
I just don't want to.
Will you consider it another time?
I think it'd be funny content.
Yeah, maybe another time.
But like, here's what I really wanted to do.
We just had four hours together.
Now we're recording a 45 minute long podcast.
I'd love to do our makeup in silence.
And we have a dinner date tonight
at the hottest date night place in Cedar Rapids.
So I think we need to like, chill out for a minute.
OK, so yeah, because it's with an over dinner.
I'll tell you everything that happened
while I was doing my makeup.
Yeah.
It'll give us some content to talk about.
We're going to need something.
It's going to be a long silent dinner.
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Something that I'm doing lately,
kind of my micro hobby right now is going on walks.
I'm like really ramping up my walks.
I want, I love going on walks.
It's one of my favorite things to do.
Our new neighborhood,
our old neighborhood was horrible for walking.
It was just like hills.
So this one, it was really important to me
that we had a neighborhood that we could walk in.
It's got some hills, but like some healthy hills,
like get your glutes working.
And also the hills are a little avoidable.
And you could avoid,
I could take a relaxing walk if I needed to.
So I want to be a walk family.
I want my kids to love going on walks
and like right now we're doing that.
And now that we have the dog, we have to take him out a lot.
So I've been doing breakfast walks.
Did I talk about my breakfast walks on the podcast yet?
No, I've seen on your Instagram when I'm obsessed.
Okay, breakfast walks are my new thing
now that it's nice outside.
I'm trying to avoid like the kids wake up and like,
well, James wakes up and asks for TV
because I'm not like anti-screen time,
but I don't think it's great like first thing in the morning.
Like I can just tell he's not as happy
the rest of the morning.
When I get him outside though,
he seems to be in a better mood.
So we're doing what I call breakfast walks.
I got these little like,
kind of look like lunchable snack containers.
My kids eat the same thing
for breakfast every single morning.
They have sausage and maybe like a yogurt
or like they have sausage every single morning.
And then sometimes like some cereal or some toast
or some yogurt or like a banana or like a side,
but it's always this like apple gate sausage,
chicken and maple, they love it.
So I make some sausage, I put it in there,
I give them whatever else.
I load them up in either my mockingbird or my Zoe
and we go on a walk and they get some sunshine
and they eat way more than they would
if we were just sitting at the table.
Like I don't have great eaters.
So if you have great eaters,
maybe like don't mess with what's working,
but like they're just sitting there.
Like it's available, like they'll snack on it.
And it's just very casual and it's lovely.
I get to move my body, the dog gets a walk
and my kids get fresh air.
Yeah, I love this idea for you.
And then they're fed and like breakfast.
And you know, there's other on the kitchen floor
to clean up.
Exactly.
Yeah.
So I've been doing breakfast walks
and we also do a digestion walk.
And I love it when my almost a year old
asked to go on a digestion walk.
Cause it's the funniest thing.
So we go on dinners, we go on walks after dinner
to digest our food.
And I saw on Instagram this thing called a dandelion walk.
You're just like, how many different walks
are you in the name in this like brand?
I know, I'm sorry.
And I'm kind of getting sick of it.
I'm like, I have a thing in my throat.
So it's kind of getting hard for me to talk.
Dandelion walk.
You take a piece of cardboard or I guess a paper plate.
It would have been a better idea.
You draw a little lion's face on it
and then you poke holes around the lion's face
and you go and pick dandelions
and you feed the dandelion stem through the hole.
So then you have a whole lion's mane.
You know, it's just darling.
Sloan, obviously she's 18 months old,
didn't know what was going on, couldn't give a rip.
James, almost three, loved it.
Yes.
Perfect activity for that age.
And have you seen like color walks
where you try and like pick up?
This is better than, well,
unless you've got people who like don't have weeds
in their yard, like my neighbors do.
Like dandelions are out right now.
Yeah.
I feel like a color walk is hard
because there's like a lot of just like green around us
and like no other colors in yellow for the dandelions.
So anyway, I'm just been loving my walks
and it's the highlight of my days.
That's so awesome.
I, you know, we're not really,
the stumbies are not really in our walk era
because the hardest part of being to our new house
is I lost my neighborhood.
And now we just have one big driveway.
That is in horrible condition.
But we are finally getting our driveway replaced.
It's in like such like dangerous.
It's original.
It's original.
It's 30 years old.
And I mean, if you don't think about our house,
like the people just didn't maintain it.
That's why we got the house.
We resealed it last year.
Didn't do much of anything.
Like there's loose rock everywhere.
There's dips, there's holes.
Like I can't hardly take a shoulder down there
because like I'll break an ankle or like it's just,
it's so bad.
So the next 14 days, they will be 14 days.
That's what Tyler said.
Because they have to rip up our current asphalt
and they have to like mill it.
Then they have to repack it
and they have to like take a vibrator on it
to like make sure it's level.
And then they start pouring the asphalt.
We're also making it wider.
Because I think that's part of the problem.
Like it wasn't very wide.
People were like driving the grass all the time.
But it has been such a long time coming.
I mean, it's been something we knew we had to do
when we bought the house
and we've lived there two years now
and we're finally getting it done.
So.
It's gonna be so life-changing.
I'm so excited to,
I'm gonna feel like that scene in cars,
when like they drive on the new road for the first time,
that's gonna be us.
Yes, a hundred percent.
You're coughing is so bad.
I know.
We just had to pull it so I could get it out.
It's one of those things where like,
I know you don't feel bad,
but like people are gonna turn their heads.
No, it sounds, it doesn't hurt.
And I'm, I think it's,
is this bronchitis where it just like lasts forever?
Do you have bronchitis?
I have no idea.
It doesn't hurt.
I'm not in pain.
It's just like this endless cough.
It sounds really bad.
And I'm just telling you
when we give this speech tomorrow
and they say, hey,
do you girls like some water on stage?
We're gonna say yes and you cannot drink yours
because I might need it after I crush mine.
Well, and I think we did something really smart
because we asked for,
I don't like a lavalier like a hand mic.
I think my energy is better with a hand mic.
Well, I think it's better with two people for a hand mic.
Cause then it's kind of more of like a,
who's gonna talk?
They bring the mic.
We can cue ourselves up.
But also you can go like this.
Oh yeah.
Yeah.
Do you know what I mean?
Like you get the mic so far away.
I know it's terrible to get the cough out of there.
I'm just shocked I'm here
after all of the trips I've missed.
And you know what last night
James has been was like jumping off of my bed
onto like a pile of pillows
and growing up, Sydney was doing.
Well, I'm sorry.
Sydney was, we were all doing it.
We threw Sydney off the bed
and she missed the pillows
and she like broke her leg.
And so I had this vision last night.
I'm like, James is gonna break his leg
the night before this conference.
And I'm gonna like, I'm shocked I'm actually here.
Yeah.
I mean out of all the trips you had to come on
like your name is in the headline.
No, I know.
This is not a car mom trip.
This is a car pool trip.
Which is so cool.
You know, it feels fun.
It feels gonna be recognized as the podcasters
the multi-platformers that we are.
Yeah.
I'm just like loving the podcast.
Okay.
Also I'm gonna tell you guys
we're doing something crazy.
We have a code for auto show tickets.
Oh yeah.
Okay.
Code is car pool.
If you want to discount on auto show tickets.
I'm not telling the rest of the car home community.
I'm only telling you guys.
But give me.
Because if you like don't listen
then like you don't get to know.
Which ought to be fun.
Something special.
Yeah.
But if you-
Something just for you.
And if you haven't booked your VIP ticket nights
let me just kind of like,
let me kind of grease the tracks for you.
Well and there,
I think there's only like 50 tickets left.
I will maybe add more if the demand is high.
Okay.
I might not though.
So VIP night one like St. Louis bites.
Like good fun St. Louis food.
Two bar wine and beer and seltzers.
Three me and Liz are there available to you
to take pictures to answer your questions
to give you a tour of the auto show will be so fun.
We're doing some other fun things
because as you guys know
what is your girl love more than anything?
A dinner auction.
Oh yeah.
And I said how can I make this feel
more like a dinner auction
without the whole hub of blue.
So one we have a charitable partner
which we are going to be getting her
on the podcast in a couple of weeks.
It is, she's actually been on the podcast before.
It's an amazing organization called Catcheride.
Catcheride Network.
Catcheride Network and they help
transportation insecure families and people
get reliable transportation.
So think like, you know,
prenatal appointment doesn't have a car,
can't go see-
Maybe like lives in a rural area
and like needs to get to the Children's Hospital
which is an hour away, doesn't have a reliable car.
Catcheride's there.
Yeah.
Like, it is, it's such a perfect charity
for us to uplift and I'm really excited
to have them be a part of the VIP night.
So here's what we're doing.
One, a closet sale.
Me, Liz and Merrick and a couple other influencers,
I've been putting some feelers out there,
we're doing a closet sale.
Also mom's donating and mom goes,
I have these like old Prada shoes.
I'm like, give it to me.
And I'm not donating like, it's the good stuff.
Like some of it still has tags,
some of the stuff I was like gifted
that I never used.
Spanx, it's the good stuff.
Yeah, most of my stuff has tags
or it's like anthropology or above quality.
And you know Merrick stuff's gonna be nice.
You know Merrick stuff's gonna be nice.
So we'll have the closet sale.
100% of the proceeds go towards Catcheride.
So like it's like, you can give a cash donation
or you can buy my darling top.
Like it makes no difference to me.
Then I was like, okay, let's have like a fun like,
how do I gamify the VIP night?
And I came up with the idea to do kind of like,
I guess it's kind of like a duck pond.
It's kind of just like a raffle.
Everyone's a winner.
Let me just explain it to you.
So Elizabeth and I get sent so much PR.
And I always save my PR every year
and then I make like literally three to six
dinner auction baskets with it.
Like I use a couple of things here and there,
but like I love to make these giant baskets.
But I've been sent, I've had a lot more come in
since the dinner auction seasons.
And I wanna do something where I'm going to put
a bunch of PR in these like little blue bags.
And I'm gonna have them all spread out
on like a six foot table.
And the rule is you pay 20 bucks for 10 bucks,
15 bucks, 30 bucks, I haven't picked the price yet.
You pay 20 bucks, you get to pick any of the bags.
You get to pick one bag.
One bag.
It could have anything from a $250 face serum
to a couple of liquid IV samples.
You don't know.
It's a gamble.
I do feel like it has to be like at least worth,
let's say that's number of $20.
I do feel like it has to be at least worth $20.
Okay, that's fine.
That's fine.
Because I think we can do that.
We can do that too.
That's fine.
We'll like throw in like a serum
and then also a liquid IV sample.
Maybe we'll just have a bag of just liquid IV sample.
Yeah.
$20 worth of 20 liquid IV samples.
I think it will be like at least worth your like,
and the majority of it's gonna be.
The majority's gonna be way more.
Yeah.
So I think that's gonna be like big razzle-dazzle.
So the closet sale will also be open
at the auto show as long as stuff is available.
The duck pond raffle thing,
whatever will only be at the VIP night.
Unless we don't sell out.
Unless we don't sell out.
But I'm gonna probably peer pressure everyone
to making sure I sell out.
Yeah.
Cause I'm really good at that.
Totally.
And it's for charity.
It's for charity.
It's for a really good cause.
So that's gonna be a blast.
Plus if you buy a VIP night ticket,
you get to come to the show the next day.
So like, if you just work out the math,
cause I think the VIP tickets are like a hundred bucks,
but work out the math.
Okay, you're getting to come to the auto show twice.
You're getting dinner.
You're getting drinks.
You're getting to meet us,
private tour of the auto show.
It's giving value.
It's giving value.
It's giving good time.
And the VIP night is so fun.
It's like a date night though.
Like that's not,
that's not where the kids stuff is.
I mean, it's like you're traveling
and like you have to bring your child.
Like we're not gonna shoo you away with your child,
but it is more of like a girls night date night.
That's kind of the vibe we're trying to cultivate,
but we would obviously never tell anyone
who has to bring their kid to not bring their kid.
No.
Please.
Please.
So I'm just getting like so excited.
It's like kind of right around the corner.
And everyone wants me to spill the tea
on the manufacturer who said no.
You can't.
I know, but I really want to,
but I won't.
It's juicy too.
It is.
It's giving like worked within the past.
But everyone thinks it's Honda for some reason.
And I will just say it's not Honda.
I didn't ask Honda corporate
because I don't even get invited to Honda events.
I've never been invited to a Honda event in my life.
I don't even have a contact.
And I love the local Honda dealership we work with.
They make it so easy.
So I didn't even like bark up Honda's tree.
So I will tell you it's not Honda.
Yeah.
And also, if you know what dealerships our parents own,
we also don't need to reach out to those manufacturers.
So you can just do process of elimination
and figure it out.
So you come to the auto show,
you can pay attention to which ones have like dealer plate
things on them,
and then maybe you'll start to connect the dots.
But yeah, it's a and it is okay
because just not everyone gets it.
And this is something we're used to our whole life.
People, not everyone gets it.
I know you guys get it,
but people so don't really get it.
Like you should really hear our dad explain this.
Such a sweet man.
Such a supporter.
Just a blind supporter.
Just a blind.
It has no idea what he's supporting.
Heavy on the blind.
Oh, that's so funny.
Okay. Well, I thought we could do like a
fast lane philosophy,
base model luxury,
like just like those like two segments.
You know what, Kel?
We have been talking all day.
We were trying to prep our questions for tomorrow
and you did a question box
and someone asked for like parenting advice.
Yeah.
And my fast lane philosophy is actually
a piece of advice that another mom gave me.
And I did bring it up on the podcast,
I think when I first heard it,
but I have found it rings so true in my life lately
that I want to bring it up again.
Okay.
What's that?
That is...
Actually, I'm laying down.
That you are just six months away
from a different season from a different child.
I was there with you.
No, you weren't.
I was at the gym.
She said, you're just six months away.
And she's like, that's, it's great.
And you know, it's kind of bittersweet,
but I just think about like where I was,
like James has just tested me so much
throughout his like terrible twos.
And now that we're like turning the corner almost three,
I'm like, he is getting easier.
I'm kind of nervous to have three kids,
but like James is only getting easier.
Sloane will get harder,
but she's never been as hard as James.
I don't think she'll be as challenging,
like challenge me as much as he did.
And if things are really hard right now,
you're six months away from being
in a totally different, totally different situation,
especially if you have young kids
because six months in a young child,
they're the different people.
They're growing so much.
They're developing so much.
They're learning so much and...
For better or worse,
you're six months away from a different situation.
For better, for worse.
But mainly for better.
I think most of us like look forward to the future.
And like when our kids can do that
and when our kids can do this.
Yeah.
So, yeah.
I think that's a good one.
It's really just really been true in my life.
And I'm continuing to look for it
because I'm thinking about having three kids
and like my hands are literally full.
Like I'm always,
my kids always want me to carry both of them.
And I'm like, what do I do when I have a third?
And I just keep thinking like,
Sloan will be in a different place,
James will be in a different place.
The baby will be literally a potato
for the first few months.
Like things will be okay.
Things will be okay.
And I'm gonna be here
because for once I'm not gonna have,
I'm not gonna have a baby when you're having a baby.
I know.
So you're gonna be like...
I'm gonna be aunt of like,
steer clear she's the aunt of the year.
You know what?
And Maddie is not a stranger to ordering a trophy,
a custom trophy online.
No, it's not.
And I...
You might make, you might get it.
I might get it.
Interesting.
Okay.
So the parenting advice that I wanted to give,
so many, so much advice.
I know I'm like so still in the trenches
but I am like semi on the other.
I'm just, I'm done with the having baby stage.
So I'm in like my raising baby stage,
which has, I'll be honest,
kind of like stripped me of a lot of my identity.
Like I had a friend the other day
asking for like a formula rack
and I'm like, we're all out of the game.
Like I use Bobby, like that's all a thing.
No, I think there's like a hot new formula now
on the market Cal.
See, I don't be like, you wouldn't know.
I don't feel comfortable giving advice.
I don't know.
And I've only not had a baby for like a year.
I know.
And I already feel out of the game.
Yeah.
But yeah, it's very interesting and sad
and exciting all at the same time.
It's such a mixed bag of emotions.
I have like a friend over who has a baby
and like I look at that baby and I compare it to Libby
and I'm like, oh, I actually don't have a baby.
Because compared to my kids, Libby's a baby,
but compared to actual babies, she's not.
She's a toddler, yeah.
And it's just been very interesting.
But some advice that I love
and I'm kind of a person who likes,
sometimes the best advice I've ever gotten
is just been like mindset shifts
and just like the obvious being said.
And I'll never forget it was October
and we were at an October party at the farm
and Hattie was, I think I had Hattie and she was young.
And my cousin was there and I was like kind of sad
because like I couldn't do the hay ride
because Hattie was doing, I was just,
I was left out, I was lonely.
And she looked at me and she goes,
it's just not your year.
Oh yeah.
And I was like, it's just not my year.
And so I'm just like not trying to shoehorn it
to be your year.
And no, like you will have those years again.
But like in this time, it's not your year.
So like all the summers I was pregnant or postpartum,
I was like, it's just not my summer.
But now look at me, this summer, it's my summer.
It is your summer and you're thriving
and you're healthy and you're feeling great.
And like now is your, is now and moving forward
is just going to be your time to shine
and to just work really focus on yourself.
And your kids are getting, are only getting easier
and it's just wonderful.
And another quote that's not really like kids specific,
but it's just like my sister-in-law has this,
I've shared this a hundred times.
I know my sister-in-law has this framed in her house
and I want to get it framed in my house.
And it just says, if you can't get out of it,
get into it.
Yeah.
And I love this quote because sometimes
whether you are going to like a family event
or like even like sometimes even like work travel
or whatever, like if you, I can't get out of this.
So I need to need to get into it.
And I just like make it fun.
And like I need, it's going to do no one any good.
If I'm, if I'm like, I don't want to go
or I'm somewhere about like, get over it, get into it.
Make it fun.
What do you need to do?
And Tyler's always telling me that,
like whenever I try to dread this travel,
I think it almost makes him mad because he's like,
will you stop?
Will you please go and like enjoy this?
Like if I'm going to be here with the kids,
like I know you're going to miss them,
but like respectfully get over it.
He's like, get over it.
I'm like, you're right.
If you are going to be the parent that travels,
like you better have a great freaking time.
You better get a great night's sleep because the parent
that is at home is doing none of those things.
No.
So like you owe it to your partner
when you are traveling to not be like, to not complain
and just thank them for being with their kids.
I totally miss them of course.
And like you can't wait to come home.
Like cause it's so great to hear those things.
But like, how was your night?
Great.
It was great.
I feel so rested.
Like what, like that's,
that's what the mother person needs to hear.
I think so at least.
Tyler doesn't travel.
I don't know how I would respond to, oh, so fun.
Went out to dinner with cap one like totally wind
and I think I would probably strangle him through the phone
if he said that and I was home alone.
Well, I mean, I don't think he needs to like rub it
in your face, but I think he can be like,
no, it was like a really productive dinner.
Like it was a really good thing that I was there.
You're right.
It was good for the, whatever.
So anyway, that's kind of things
that have been on my mind lately.
Just it's not your summer.
And like, it's okay to just say that sometimes.
And let me be clear.
It's not your summer.
No, it's not my summer.
And it does feel good because it does put things
into like a very temporary perspective.
Exactly.
It takes you to a temporary perspective
and it sets your expectations.
Yeah.
And I think I really struggled with it
when I had the first two kids because I was alone,
like no one else was having kids.
And so I did feel a lot more alone.
And now I am so happy it was me
who had the kids first though,
because I will not let my siblings feel like that.
Like I will be.
Yeah, no, I know.
Because I'll sit there with you.
I'd love to sit there with you, catch up.
It's not my baby.
I'll just, I'm excited for that.
Yeah.
I'll hold your baby for a little bit until it cries
and then you can take it,
and like it wants you and you can take it back.
Like that's what it's like.
No, I don't keep it when it cries for a little bit.
I'm not scared.
Yeah.
Let's keep it when it cries for a little bit.
I'm going to be really,
I'm getting more hands on with your children lately
because I just think they are going to need to learn
to take refuge and keep.
Other people.
Well, they're going to.
I know.
They're going to need to learn.
I know, my kids are so clingy to me.
They're so clingy.
And like I am there with open arms and, you know.
Yeah.
And I'm not scared to bribe.
And I have, I mean, yeah, me, yeah.
And Kikik's going to be raking up the brownie points.
All right, Aunt Kikik.
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