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When they say your life goes before your eyes, it's a fairly accurate state.
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If the physical exertion, if I can get through that, it will delay whatever pain getting to my head.
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When I was falling, I remember thinking, go out like a man.
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Don't yell and scream. Don't flail. Just fall. Get dead.
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And let everybody tell a cool story about you, how you handle it like a man.
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Welcome to Dealer Out of Office. We're your hosts. I'm Frank Zambo.
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I'm Jake Burkle, and we are here to talk to you about Dealer's interests outside of the office.
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Now watch this drive.
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Welcome to the first edition of Dealer Out of Office. I am one of your hosts, Jake Burkle,
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alongside the man, the myth, the legend, Frank Zambo. We got a good one today, buddy.
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It's our first attempt that we don't know what we're doing.
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We don't. This is our first attempt at a podcast, and lucky for us, we have a certified badass
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ex-Navy Seal on the podcast for our very first one. So, yeah, we're excited, and yeah, Jake.
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Yeah, to that. So, you know, Errol Dobler, former Navy Seal, FBI agent, and now a leadership
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consultant. We're happy to have him on. Errol, welcome to the show, man.
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It's good to be here, boys. And so, always good to be the primary guest on the podcast,
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but just so you know, I've been on about a thousand of these. So, if you get caught up,
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I can carry you the whole way, all right? Don't do the work.
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He's got us beat already. You got to think, too, like in everything I've ever watched,
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like a Netflix series comes out, they always have their first episode. It's like their
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biggest, baddest, has the most action, and then it kind of tears off from there. So,
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this is what I expect to be our most interesting, entertaining podcast.
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All bad help from here. Yeah, that's it. So, Errol, let's start off
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kind of early on. Like, what's the background before we get into the Seal teams? Like,
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what were you like as a kid? What did you know you were going to be a Seal? Kind of,
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let's start ground zero here. Yeah, well, I'm from New York, and everybody from New York,
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whether you ask them or not, will always tell you, I'm from New York. So, New Yorkers
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are a very proud bunch, and I'm from Long Island, which is even more proud, right?
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So, I grew up on Long Island, South Shore of Long Island, on the water, you know,
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pretty good, you know, middle-class childhood. I played all the sports, but, you know,
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I started playing hockey really young. So, I started playing hockey like four,
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and then did everything else after that. You know, I ended up going, my primary sports
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in high school were football and lacrosse. And, you know, at the time, this is, I'm pretty old,
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right? So, I graduated high school in 1986. So, at that time, I was good enough to play
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good Division III football, right, even just being small. You didn't have to be huge.
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But, you know, lacrosse was more of my sport. So, I ended up going to the Naval Academy
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for lacrosse. And, you know, it's not a, it's not the family business. Military wasn't my family
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business. There were some folks in my family that served, but it wasn't like a thing, right?
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You know, all we have is a military. And I just, my next-door neighbors went to the Naval
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Academy. And, one day, they just bought over one of those brochures, right? It was like a
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little coffee table book. And I was just flipping through it as a young kid and I was like, oh,
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this is cool. And that was the first time I started thinking about the SEAL teams. And,
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again, back then, this is, when I first got this, this was probably like 1981. So, obviously,
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you didn't go online and learn about the SEAL teams. They were truly an enigma back then.
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Nobody really knew what the heck that was all about. And there was just this one picture
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in this catalog on the Naval Academy with these dudes in their like little shorts, their UDT shorts,
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and just hanging out there. And it had like a paragraph. And I'm like, who the hell are these
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guys? And, you know, so there was just something about the lack of detail. And so I went to the
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library and, you know, went to the card catalog and tried to look for anything for SEAL teams. And
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then what was that? Like, you'd scroll through that machine and it would give you the old newspaper
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clippings, whatever the hell that was. We're the wrong people to ask on that one, man.
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You weren't even born yet, Errol. So, yeah, I know. I know. So, but that's the, so then I
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found like an article. But then that left my mindset. And when my lacrosse coach asked
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me, where did I want to go to school? I hadn't really even given it much thought, right? Now,
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the obvious places for lacrosse players from Long Island, you know, Johns Hopkins,
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Syracuse, University of Maryland, right? Those are the big ones that you always thought about.
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But for some reason, just the Naval Academy flew out of my mouth. And he's like, all right,
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we'll get the coach down here. And coach came and watched me and they offered me. So,
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I didn't need to get a congressional appointment, right? Normal people go in.
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And they've got to get this congressional appointment for athletes and like the prior
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enlisted, they have the Naval Academy prep school, where they can just send you
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if they want. And all you have to do is graduate from there and then you can get
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the appointment to the Naval Academy. So, I went there with all the other
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athletes and prior enlisted guys. And then, you know, that's your indoctrination to the Naval
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Academy, the military. It was super rigorous academically and militarily. And then, you know,
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then we went to the Naval Academy. So, that's kind of me in a nutshell growing up.
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So, one question, what positions did you play? And second, what was it like balancing? I
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mean, you talked about how rigorous, you know, not just being in a military school,
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but also a sport and an academic. So, what was, you know, what was like balancing all that together
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for you? Yeah. So, in football, I was an outside linebacker in fullback. I loved playing football.
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And, you know, in hockey, I was a center and defenseman. And then lacrosse, I was a midfielder,
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but then moved to close defense in college. Short stick? Well, so I was a little bit of
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everything in college. So, my first year, I was a short stick midi, D midi. The second year,
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they moved me to crease defense, where, you know, I started on both of those. My third year, they
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moved me back to short stick midi. And then senior year, they moved me back to crease defense.
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So, it was just kind of the needs. I was, I was like, one of those guys, if they needed
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somebody in that spot, it was good enough for them to be there. He can, he can do it.
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The Naval Academy, especially the prep school, that was a huge adjustment for me because I was,
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I was smart enough, but I was a terrible student. And I've got a young son right now.
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I was 12. And I see so much of myself and him when it comes to school work, because he's
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pretty smart. He's quick on his feet. And I watch him blow off his homework. And you know,
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so I'm all over him for that. So I, you know, my parents didn't stay on me
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at school. So by the time I was a senior, like, you know, in high school, like cutting class,
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and it was like I wasn't even in school. Right. So any good habits I had
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for studying were gone. And when I got to the prep school, it was,
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I just, it was a different academic world. The standards were super high. The speed was super
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high. I ended up graduating. And then when I got to the Naval Academy, I'm like, well,
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I'm good to go because that was really hard. The Naval Academy, the academic requirements
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were off the charts, even compared to the prep school. Like I'd carry 23 hours, my first two years,
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a semester. So for the first two semesters, it was 23 hours, 23 hours, 21 hours, 21 hours. It
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wasn't until I was a senior in my second semester that I only had like 15 credit hours.
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And I had, after the first set of grades came out, the first half of the first semester of my
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freshman year, I had a 0.8 grade point average. I was failing everything except for, I had a D
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in my class. So you had to pick it up pretty quick. So, you know, that was, so to your question,
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Jacob, you just had, you either learn to manage your time or you got booted. It was as simple as
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that. There was no, there was no runway. And I went to a couple of academic boards. Thank God,
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I was an athlete, right? Because some of the kids who weren't there for something special like
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athletics and, you know, if they, if they weren't cutting it academically and had nothing
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else to offer, they were gone. You know, at least I was, you know, they were like,
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well, I was a lacrosse player. He's pretty good. And that's what they bought him here for.
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Let's give him some runway. Yeah, whether it's fair or not, that's, that's how it was. Yeah.
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Errol, talk to us about, so you're getting towards the end of college. And now you're like,
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all right. And I'm sorry, my understanding is your naval academy, you're playing sport.
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And then towards the end of that, now you have to serve, correct? And now you're like,
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or do I go into the Navy? Or do I want to be a Navy SEAL? Now you're starting to learn more
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about the SEALs as an option. Or you talk about that whole process where you, how you went through
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that. Yeah, it's an interesting process. So you are required to serve five years after you
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graduate. And if you're a pilot, it's like seven years. And what happens is, based on your
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class rank, they call you in and you have what's called service selection night. And there's a huge
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board with all the ships that you could go on. If you wanted to be a pilot, right, it would be
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for flight school, submarine school, marine corps, supply corps, Navy SEALs. And they called you,
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it was like, your day went on. Like, so you'd be, you know, right after the last class, it started.
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So they'd be like, okay, numbers one through 20, reports to the hall for your service selection.
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So if you were had a good, you know, if you had good grades, you got to, you had to pick
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in the litter, right? And then they would, and there were a certain number of billets,
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they would run out eventually. So like, there's plenty of ships that will never run out.
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They might have only, but you know, they'd have like maybe a hundred pilot billets, right, which
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is a lot, you know, X number of submarine billets, but it was a lot. And they only had that year
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10 SEAL billets. And, and I knew, right, who was wanted to be a SEAL and everybody was looking at the,
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you know, you go to a guy like, Hey, you don't really want it that bad to try to talk him out of it.
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And I was going to be about 12, right, if it all went to pass. And so I was waiting and then,
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you know, I got word that the 10th one was picked. And I was devastated. Now, here's the
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funny part. My class rank was so low. So they would have a party, right, and they don't have
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a lot of parties at the Naval Academy, but they had, you know, they had beer there. And if you were
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21, you could drink. And it was really exciting for people. Not only was the party over after I
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picked my service selection, they had cleaned up. It wasn't even like, there was some,
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you know, some beer, you know, some cardboard, or some paper cups on the floor. It was spotless.
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You know, I rolled in, I'm like, Oh my God, I was like 10 from the bottom. So anyway, I go in,
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and there's nothing but ships up there. And I had one of my professors and this was a turning
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point in my life. And he was like, What's wrong? And I told him, you know, it's like F this,
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man, I don't want to be on a ship. He says, Well, what do you want? I want to be SEAL.
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And he goes, Okay, he goes, pick that ship. And it was the USS Monogahila AO 178 was an
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oiler. Like, so imagine not being want to be on a ship. And then somebody's saying,
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be on an oiler. And I'm like, does that thing even have any weapons on it? He's like,
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that's not what you care about. He said, if you care about getting to the SEAL teams,
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you need to be on a ship that's out to sea all the time. And I'm like, that's the opposite of what
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I want. He's like, I know. But if you go out to sea all the time, you'll get your surface warfare
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qualifications faster than anybody. And that will look good when you will try to laterally
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transfer over to the SEAL teams, because it's going to be very competitive and you've got
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to have something to stand out. And it was the best advice I'd ever gotten because
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when I laterally transferred, you know, you've got to put in a package to the SEAL command.
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And there was like 30 packages for that year for guys like me who were not in the SEAL teams
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who wanted to laterally transfer from where they were. And they were taking two.
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And, you know, I got picked. And one of the reasons after I asked was like, what was it?
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They're like, you've got your qualifications in like nine months. That's unheard of.
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It takes most people two years. So that was kind of my progression to the SEAL teams up.
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But I was on a ship before that. And that's how it goes picking your things.
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So I didn't even get to go to the party.
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One of the most intriguing things to me about the Navy SEALs is now you've made your decision to go.
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Now you talk about Hell Week. Someone like me, like I went through training camp.
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I try to do some dueathalons. And the mental toughness aspect of this is pretty amazing.
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You know, just running long distances for me is like a mental grind. Getting through training
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camp, you know, those type of things. The most amazing thing to me about a Navy SEAL
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is the fact that you guys made it through Hell Week and the mental grind that took place
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physically, mentally, everything. Can you talk about how you prepped your mind, your body
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for something like that once you're accepted? And then talk about, please talk about Hell Week
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about your experiences there. And then that satisfaction of you've cleared it.
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That kind of, that's amazing to me.
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Now it's a good question. And again, it was a different time. So I went to,
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I reported to Buds, which is SEAL training. Buds stands for Basic Underwater Demolition SEAL
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in 1993. And the story I told you about that paragraph on the SEAL teams, it didn't get
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much better about learning about the SEAL teams before that. So all you know is that it's
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six months long and 70% of the people quit and it can get cold. That's all you know.
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And right. And like, it's going to be really physically tough. So, you know, you're nervous.
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So I was just in, I'm like, well, minimally, I will be in the best shape of anybody.
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And that's, and then once you get there, you realize that's the minimum requirement.
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Like I was in pretty good shape. I wasn't even the guy in best shape.
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Like the absolute physical ability the guys who showed up at Buds, like being able to do
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multiple sets, maybe 10 sets of 20 pull-ups, I've never seen anything like it in my life.
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Right. So that was the first thing, like, okay, just be physically fit. Because I knew
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enough to know if I'm, if the physical exertion, if I can get through that, it will
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delay whatever pain getting to my head, right? In between my ears, right? So,
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hey, this doesn't bother me. I'm running 10 miles or I'm swimming five miles. It doesn't
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bother me. I'm good. Therefore, I can stay mentally sharp. So that was the first thing.
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But then, then you quickly realize just again, the pace that they put you at. Now,
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Hell Weeks, I mean, I'm sorry, Buds is six months long. Hell Week, which is, you know,
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the thing everybody knows about, that's in the first phase. That's like in week five. It's early.
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So you will lose, of all the people you'll lose in your class, it'll be pretty much by the end
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of the fifth week of 26 weeks. So we started our class with 200 people. And at the end of
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Hell Week, five weeks later, we were down to 10. So imagine the rate of people quitting every day.
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It was, so when you quit, you ring the bell, ding, ding, ding. It's like all you heard all day
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was the bell ringing. You're like, Jesus, who just quit? So, and it was just because, again,
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everybody was a physical stud. But when you put in just the pace of what they did it, it was you
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woke up early in the morning, and it was a work day, right? So it was like, not nine to five, but,
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you know, maybe we met at five in the morning for a muster, went to breakfast,
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and then the day would end at about five at night. And then you had your night,
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which you would just go right to bed. So it, you know, you'd go home and you just like,
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go to sleep and be like, oh my God, the next day. So one funny story is I remember
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they would, and they used the cold I went through in the winter class. So I went through that in
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January of 94 is when it actually started. So anyway, and so they just use the cold
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to get you, right? So one day in the winter in San Diego, the waves are huge. So one day we're
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supposed to just do like an ocean swim at the end of the day. And it was like 10 foot waves,
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right? 12 foot waves, just crushing. And they were like, no, everybody go get your boats.
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And what they would do is you probably, I don't know if you've seen like the guys paddling
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out into the surf, right? And going over the waves, they were just like, okay, if you get out and come
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back your day is over. Because they knew nobody was going to be able to paddle. Anyway, so now we've
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got to get our boats set up and ready to go. And I was the kind of senior guy. So I was in charge
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of my class. And one of the guys that I really counted on his name was Pat. And I can't
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remember his last name, but I'll never forget just a thunder stud. And he comes running up to
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me and he's like, or sorry, I got to talk to you. And I look at him. I'm like, are you fucking kidding
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me? Do you see what's going on? Can this wait? He's like, yeah, yeah, no problem. And he runs away.
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And next thing I hear, ding, ding, ding. And I go, everybody stop. Where's Pat? And they're like,
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he just quit, man. And I was like, oh my God. So anyway, we've got to finish. It takes
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three hours for anybody to get past the surf. That's how rough it was. So just imagine paddling
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into a 10 foot wave getting smashed, regrouping, right? So anyway, it's over. And I go to Pat's room.
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And I go, Pat, what, why didn't you tell me what you were going to do? I would have,
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you know, I would have talked to you. He's like, Oh, no, no. He's like, there was, I was
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just telling you as a courtesy, there was nothing you were going to tell me to stop me from
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quitting. I go, why? He goes, did you see that water? Right? Did you see that? Who does that?
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So my point is, you never knew what was going to get somebody to quit. You just never knew.
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And, you know, during hell week, it rained all week. And you, I remember a guy next to me,
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they put us in the water. It was a night. It was so cold and they just make you lock arms and sit in
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the water. And they're like, okay, you'll get out when somebody quits. And one of my good friends
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was hooked on next to me. He's like, that's it. I'm out. And I'm like, Jesus Christ, we just started.
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We just started. He's like, five days of this, are you kidding me? And all I said to him was,
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do what you want to do. But can you just try to make it to the next meal? Just try because they feed you
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four times a day. That they have to do because you burn like, I think they're like 15 to 20,000
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calories a day. Because you're never, you're never not moving. I'm like, man, if you want to quit,
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quit just, can you make it to the next meal? And that meal was midnight. He was like, I don't
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know if I can, but I'll try. And he did. And then he made it. But that was the guys who
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mindset of like, now make it to the next meal. Now that's what it became. Just make it to the next
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meal, right? Because you knew that was a break. But you know, it was again, just guys quit. We
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went into hell with 40, right? So we went down to 200 to 40 at the beginning of hell week. And
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then at the end of hell, we attend. So it was still 30 guys quitting. The bell was just constantly
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ringing. You just never knew who was going. And then what they would do is somebody would quit,
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right? And it would be at night. Everybody always quit at night. There was never a
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quitter in the daytime. They always quit. And it was like that when the sun was going down,
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you could just see it in guys' faces. So they would get somebody to quit. And they put them in
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the van and they'd keep the van open and they'd have the heat on in the van. And they had coffee
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and donuts for the quitters. So then they would make us go sit right next to the van.
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You know, then they inevitably somebody else was like, like, can I have coffee and donuts?
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Well, baby, it's all yours. So it was, but you know, those are fun stories. But to your point
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about mindset, there was a couple things that I learned. When you do something like that, there's
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got to be an inherent desire deep inside of you to do it, right? Every single person that
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goes to Bud's is a stud, right? They just are. But not everybody had it so deep in their bones
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that they wanted it that no matter what they did, they weren't going to quit. That's how hard it
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is. It's one of the few things that I say, did you ever see something on TV about Bud's? Like,
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yeah, it looks really hard. I'm like, it's harder in person. Normally, they kind of make
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it exaggerated. Not that. You know, and just a quick two quick examples of what I mean by that is
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at the end of hell week, like with like an hour to go, they got you got you running out of the
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boats on your heads, right? You're all swollen because you're retaining water. It says you're
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a mess. And they're walking us by all the helmets that quit under the bell. And it's
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supposed to be very emotional for you. Well, I remember my shin splints were so bad
25:11
that I literally felt like my shins were going to snap. I was sure of it. I'm like, wow,
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my shins might literally snap in half. And I was like, well, I hope somebody's there to help me
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when they do because I'm not quitting, right? That was the mindset. When you do a 15 meter
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underwater swim, that's one of the requirements. And that's even before hell, we can guys
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quit for that. But I remember during practice, I never made it. I never made it to 50 meters.
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And they give you some time to practice. And I was like, well, how am I going to pull this
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rabbit out of the hat? Like, I'm not going to get better at it because I'm going to be more
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nervous. I'm going to burn more oxygen. And then I remember thinking to myself, oh, I just
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won't come up. I'm just not coming up no matter what. So I'll, I'll drown and I hope
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somebody saves me. And it was that mindset that actually relaxed me and I made it no problem
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because my mindset was it does not matter what happens. I will not quit. That's how bad I wanted
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it. So there needs to be that, I think that inherent desire deep inside. Am I making sense?
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I know I rambled on a little dude, you got me ready to run through a wall right now.
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It makes the most sense because if you're able to push yourself to a point of I'm willing to drown
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myself, like, yeah, I don't think there's any further amount of mental toughness you can go
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because you're literally like killing yourself. And I did. And it wasn't even dramatic for me.
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It was like a light bulb went off. I'm like, Oh, I just won't come up. That's it.
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They'll have to kick me out because I will not quit. They'll have to say you failed.
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Therefore, we kick you out. And I was like, if you were going out, you were going out on
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your own. On my own. Yeah, story about this too. So there's a guy, the 50 meter underwater swim
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really messed with guys heads. So we would, there was the area where we had our cages and
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you'd have your gear and you're always running it out of there. And so we were there to get
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our stuff before we ran over to the pool. And I see a guy pull out a bottle of vodka.
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And I look at him and I go, What are you doing? And he's like,
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you're not going to rat on me. Are you? I'm like, No, but what are you doing? Like,
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you're going to drink? Like, I don't, are you okay? Do you have a problem?
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He's like, dude, we got the 50 meter underwater swim coming up.
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He just did a couple shots to relax himself. It's like being golf. That's what I need.
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Between the ears, you got to clear that space. Frankie sober on the golf course is no good.
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Yeah. And then there's another guy who, when we ran over vomited like three times every time
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it was like clockwork. If we were like, we would have three practices. So we'd be running
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over and all of a sudden you hear, it's unbelievable what it did to people. But anyway,
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I mean, you got 200 people that tried out. You got America's brightest and best doing it.
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You make it to the final 5% which I'm sure maybe other folks may have quit to that point. So the
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1% of the 1% I've been told by some other folks in the around the state. There's like three
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type of Americans that try out for the seals and you tell us what your take is on it is you have
28:38
like your triathletes, the ones that are like, I want to just see how far I can make it. You know,
28:43
you got your patriots and then you got some crazy dudes who are just their killers in a way
28:50
and you need those kind of guys, but you, but it's like a legal way, not that they're that
28:54
sick, but the legal way to kill people for your country. So it's like, what is your take on
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the type of people that you encountered those because they are, there is something loose up there to get
29:06
to that point to be able to drown yourself. Like talk a little bit if you could about that.
29:10
I can talk to it because it's an interesting question. My thought on that, even as it goes
29:17
beyond the type of person that goes to seal training, right? So I was an FBI SWAT operator
29:24
as well. I, you know, I'm a combat veteran. When I was in the FBI, they attached me to the 75th
29:31
Ranger Regiment for combat operations for like four months. And I think we averaged literally a
29:37
combat operation. It wasn't quite every other day. It was like every two and a half days.
29:42
So we were just constantly in combat with the enemy. And what I often thought, because
29:51
when I was in the FBI, I did a good job when I was working cases of recruiting sources,
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I was able to recruit bad guys without holding something over. That's usually the way to do it,
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right? Like, you know, okay, Frank, you're a criminal, you run drugs, I caught you. And now
30:09
guess what? You can either go to jail or work for me, right? And by the way, I had that with
30:15
a guy and he goes, what kind of jail time do you think I get? I'm like, you're gonna get
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10 years. He's like, I'll do the 10. I was like, are you kidding me? Anyway, so, but
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my point is, as I got to know a real criminal element, and even as I got to know terrorists,
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because I went and interviewed terrorists in Kazakhstan, like literal murderers,
30:43
who I was able to establish rapport with. And I was always like, why am I able to do this?
30:50
And my thought was now to get to your question, there's a line, right? And you've got your bad guys
30:58
on this line, and they're towing it. And they're on the bad guy side. And then you've got your
31:03
good guys on this side, and a lot of us toe that line. So it's two guys towing the same line.
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You're just on opposite sides of good and evil. But essentially the mindset is the same in that
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I'm willing to do awful things for my cause. My cause happened to be a patriotic cause,
31:28
a love of country, a love of duty. And oh, you mean to tell me there's a way I can get after
31:34
guys like this, and do that duty? Okay, sign me up for that. So I don't know as it's coming out of my
31:43
mouth how proud I am of what I'm saying, but it's the answer to your question. Now as far as the
31:50
type of guys, I couldn't really answer to the three categories. But I think I did kind of address
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really where that mindset is in a lot of us who go this round. And I do think
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buds and over the last, you know, all of a sudden you see GIG, you know, that kind of stuff. And
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that's gotten more of like, the physical, I think it's gotten more, the attention's been
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brought to more of the training aspect in the hell week. But probably when you were there,
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it wasn't as like you said, you didn't even know much about it by the time you got there.
32:25
Now I feel like every American out there, that Navy Seals came out when I was a senior,
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Charlie Sheen. That was the first, like, commercial thing. I remember being like,
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God damn it. Why is this coming out? Because now there's gonna be five extra guys who want to do it.
32:42
Yeah. But now it is. It's something that every American knows of the sacrifice that you guys
32:46
go through and the mental toughness you guys go through. And yeah, that's amazing. So,
32:51
so, Errol, we've talked, you know, we talked through buds. Now, you know, you said several
32:57
tours, you know, if you want to talk through that, I know we have some stuff we want to get to
33:00
because of what you're currently doing, which Frank and I have both experienced firsthand
33:05
and has been incredible. So we want to get to that. But take us through quickly kind of like,
33:09
all right, you know, Seals is over. You are a Navy Seal. Now we're deployed. And then kind
33:14
of, you know, if you have stories for that, I know everyone loves to hear them. I know
33:18
some people don't like to talk about them. I'll leave that one up to you and then kind of that
33:22
transition out of the Seals as well. Yeah, for sure. And here's the funny thing, right? When people
33:28
say, you know, what can you talk about? Maybe you can't talk about it. I always just say,
33:32
I'll talk about everything because you don't know what I'm not telling you anyway, right? So I
33:38
never, right, you know, I'm not going to tell you what I can't tell you. I never go the
33:42
route like, well, I can't tell you that, you know, I'll just tell you and it's always
33:46
plenty. So, but so I was in the SEAL team for a member during peacetime. So there wasn't a ton
33:53
of action for us. So my first deployment was with SEAL Team 4, which we forward deployed to Panama.
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And, you know, then you go out to various countries in, in South and Central America.
34:09
And at that time, you're mostly just training with that host countries, you know, special
34:15
forces or whatever it is. My second deployment, I was on what's called an amphibious readiness group.
34:22
So we deployed and this was with SEAL Team 1. So we were stationed on a ship. And we actually got a
34:29
call for an op, which we were like, holy crap, all right, let's get something. It was a classic
34:34
Navy SEAL op, right? There was a tanker that was identified that it was going wherever it was
34:42
going. It wasn't supposed to be going with people on it who weren't supposed to be on it,
34:45
with stuff on it that they weren't supposed to have, right? That's how you get past all that.
34:49
And, and they said, you know, all right, doble this platoon is in the area, have them take
34:56
down that ship in 48 hours. And so we were pumped, like, okay, we got one. And
35:05
so we, we had a day to rehearse, which is always a benefit, right? Always a bonus.
35:14
And now imagine, right, this ship takedown is the big tanker goes, and we've got two squads on
35:21
our fast boats, and we kind of sneak up to the side of it, right, without them knowing we're
35:25
there. And you get your biggest guy, he's got a big grappling hook on a big long pole with a
35:32
caving ladder, and he throws it up, hooks the grappling hook onto the side of the ship, the
35:38
ladder falls down, and you climb up it all without the bad guys knowing you get on board.
35:44
And then we, you go to the bridge, you go to the, you go to the engine room, those are the
35:49
areas you got to control. And that's how it's done. And the sea state, you guys ever
35:55
watch Seinfeld? Remember the one where he was hitting golf balls into the, into the ocean? And he
36:05
was like, the sea was angry that day, my friends, right, whenever he was describing to get that.
36:12
Anyway, that's, that's the best way I could describe it. The sea was angry that day, my friend.
36:18
And so as we were down ready to launch our boats, the commanding officer called me up
36:24
to the bridge. And he goes, well, what are you, what are you going to do? And I'm like,
36:31
we're going to go rehearse. And he's like, in this, and I go, yeah, in this, he goes, no,
36:38
I won't allow it. It's too dangerous. And I go, okay, I said, if the sea state is like this
36:44
tomorrow, are we going to be ordered to go on the up? And he goes, well, I would imagine,
36:49
yeah. And I just stared at him. Like literally just stared at him. And you could feel the unspoken
36:57
conversation. Because I was saying, you cannot send us on an up in this sea state without letting us
37:05
rehearse it. You can't. And he kind of got what I was going, he's like, you really going to do it?
37:11
And I'm like, that's what we're here for. It's like, okay. So to make a long story short,
37:20
it was awful. Like, even for seals who do this and really get off on it. I remember thinking,
37:28
I may have made a mistake, I may be pushing the envelope too far. And that's saying a lot.
37:32
Because it was my call, I could have aborted any time. And we would get up, we got up next to
37:37
this ship. And you could see that the cre, the waves would go up like maybe five feet high,
37:45
and then they'd go down. And you could see underneath the hull of the ship. So one wrong move
37:52
by our guy driving our boats, we would get sucked under the boat, the big tanker. That's how big
38:00
the sea state was. It was petrifying. And in hindsight, I probably should have
38:06
aborted the up, but I didn't. And because my mindset was, this is why they pay us this.
38:13
This is why we're seals. And I think most guys would have done what I did anyway.
38:20
When I got to the top of the ladder, the guy who was holding the ladder at the bottom got thrown,
38:26
right? Because the sea state was so heavy. He got knocked off, he let go of the ladder.
38:30
When our boat hit the top of the wave, the ladder hooked onto the cleat. Just one in a million
38:38
chance. So now it's hard point, the ladders hard pointed to two spots here on the cleat and then
38:44
up top with the with the grappling hook. So now the boat's got to go down into the crest of the
38:50
wave. So it goes down. The caving ladder explodes. Well, I was just about to pull myself over
38:56
when it exploded. And I fell 30 feet into the into the boat. Now,
39:03
when they say your life goes before your eyes, it's a fairly accurate state. Because it probably took
39:11
me two seconds to fall that distance. But the number of things that went through my mind
39:19
felt like a day, right? I thought about, like, I remember where I lost my car keys. No, I'm
39:25
just kidding. But like, I thought about, you know, I remember thinking about my dad,
39:31
how upset he was going to be. And I was really like, man, I hope he's going to be okay.
39:38
And I remember thinking, you know, from a leadership standpoint, and this is probably
39:43
what saved my life. And I'm not saying aren't I cool? Because this is what I thought. It's
39:46
just what I thought. When I was falling, I remember thinking, go out like a man. Don't
39:52
yell and scream. Don't flail. Just fall. Get dead. And let everybody tell a cool story about you. How
39:59
you handle it like a man. And that probably saved me because I just fell, right? And when I fell,
40:07
the final thought was, can I survive this, right? After I'd gone through a bunch of things,
40:11
I'm like, is there any way I survived this? Because what I thought was going to happen
40:15
was I thought I was going to fall in between the boats. And then I would have gotten sucked
40:20
underneath the big boat and got chewed up by the propeller. And I remember, I literally remember
40:26
thinking, man, I hope that happens fast because that is going to be awful. I just remember thinking
40:32
how awful it was going to be. The other thing that I thought was happened was I was going to
40:37
just get impaled on either an antenna, a radar mount, a gun mount, something, right? Because
40:44
they were all over the boat. I hit and I hit the one spot, the engine cover, that didn't have
40:53
anything to impale me on it. When I hit it flat, I bounced up in the air probably about 10 feet
41:02
and my arm was dangling. So that was off the side and it just snapped, right? So imagine
41:08
falling like this, this hits the side, my arm snaps. So I was up in the air and then you talk
41:14
about how quickly training kicks in. It's not a, you know, you go to your lowest level of training,
41:22
right? It's football, it's, you know, Jake, I know you played hockey, it doesn't matter.
41:27
And I say this in my leadership stuff. Where do you go when you don't have time to think?
41:33
When chaos is the only thing around you, you go to what you know, the question is what do you know,
41:39
right? Now let's start establishing what you know. Well, for us, I knew training. I knew I was
41:45
alive. I went through the scenarios again in my head about what could happen. I could still
41:50
fall in between the two boats, in which case I'm dead. I could fall on the other side of our
41:55
boat, in which case I had, I couldn't swim because my arm was dangling. So I was like,
42:02
okay, don't die, try to swim, pull your CO2 cartridge because we have these inflatable vests,
42:07
you pull a cartridge, right? And then, you know, wait for the cavalry. And I said, if I land on a
42:13
gun mount or something, I won't get killed. I'll be fine. It'll just hurt. I ended up just
42:18
landing right back down where I hit. It was amazing. And so I was the last one that
42:28
was going to go. And on the boat were the Coxon, his assistant, right? The guy driving the boat,
42:33
his assistant. And between them, they were probably like 36 years old. That's how young they were.
42:39
And then my guy who dropped it, who was also probably only 19 years old. And I was an old guy
42:46
at the time. I was like 29. And they were all just standing there, like, like it didn't even
42:53
happen. And then I looked at my arm and it was bleeding. I'm like, Oh my God, I hope that's
42:58
not an artery that I snapped or whatever. And I was like, hey, somebody give me a, you know,
43:04
an ace bandage. Like, ace bandage came out of my head and like one hit me in the face.
43:09
Like they didn't even walk over to give me aid. They threw me something. So I'm like,
43:14
ah, I started doing it. And, you know, one of the guys finally snapped that. I was like,
43:18
hey, let me do that. I'm like, no, I'll do it myself because what I was afraid of was
43:23
it was going to hurt so bad that he started wrapping me up. I'd be like whack, you know.
43:29
So I said, I'll just do it myself. And fast forward, I get up to the ship and they're
43:37
going to bring me in. And I walked away from it, right? And the corpsman is there and he's like,
43:44
all right, let's get you in quick. Let's get you checked out. And I was kind of making jokes
43:49
because I just, I didn't know what else to do. So he started making jokes and I'm like, hey,
43:57
I'm making jokes for some weird reason. I go, we've got about a minute before this shock wears
44:04
off and this really starts to hurt. So please stop fucking around. We got to get some drugs
44:08
in me. And so they pump me full of drugs. They send me over to the hospital ship because
44:15
we were in a battle group. And there's chaos, right? And everybody's yelling and screaming. And
44:22
finally I hear somebody say, Hey, if I'm not needed here, I'm leaving. And I'm like, everybody stop
44:29
talking. Now these were, I was a lieutenant, which is an 03. So it's a mid rank for officers.
44:35
Everybody else there was like an 06. They were like captains and doctors, right? And I'm like
44:40
telling everybody just, Hey, everybody be quiet. I go, who just said that? Who said that they were
44:46
going to leave? And some guy goes, I did. Why? I go, because you're the only one who's not losing
44:53
their mind. I want you here. And he goes, you heard him, gentlemen, everybody leave. Well,
44:58
turn down, he was the anesthesiologist. So he was the most important person there anyway.
45:02
So anyway, now everything's settled down and he's looking at me and he goes,
45:08
you're the seal who just fell 30 feet into the boat, right? And I go, yeah.
45:17
And he looks around. He goes, how much morphine does this man have in him? And the corpsman,
45:23
whatever number he said, I can't remember what it was. The anesthesiologist goes,
45:28
great. Because that's enough to knock a horse out. And I remember being like, that's weird.
45:35
And so I knew that they were going to have to do something with my arm. And I was just really
45:40
nervous. Like, this is going to hurt. And I'm like, doc, I think my arm isn't bad shape.
45:46
Can you give me something so it doesn't hurt when with whatever you do? He goes, son,
45:51
he goes, trust me, nothing's going to hurt because you may not wake up. So don't worry
45:57
about it. And literally I passed that two days later, I came to this guy was like,
46:02
you might die from an overdose of morphine. So anyway, I got medically discharged.
46:09
And then so let me stop there, right? I'm just I'm rambling on the story.
46:15
Let me stop there. If there's anywhere you want to jump. We could do a whole show of stories
46:19
like that, I'm sure. But I know we want to get to kind of moving on through the whole thing,
46:25
right? So you're medically discharged. And then how does how does the private
46:30
sector work, you know, into the FBI and then, you know, transition and, you know,
46:35
I know we want to transition to kind of what you're doing now.
46:38
Yeah. So I'll take a little more expeditious route to this because there's not as many
46:44
good stories, but there's, but so I'm out of the Navy. And, you know, I had suffered. So that
46:53
fall really jacked my head up. And I had had another fall, about four months prior to that,
47:02
where we were training and we were going through a door. And on the other side of the door,
47:07
there was no floor. So I took like a 10 foot header, like imagine just diving 10 feet on the
47:14
concrete on your head, right? This is on the latter part of your career, correct?
47:20
You're late twenties, you're kind of already know what you're getting out, right?
47:24
Well, no, at that point, I was planning on staying in. I already had my next assignment.
47:28
So this was during the workup, the deployment that I just described where I got injured.
47:34
This happened. And I barely missed like a day of training. I broke both my wrist. And at that
47:38
time, you just didn't tell anybody you got hurt, right? You know, very much like an NFL
47:45
mindset, because my corpsman, he's like, let me see your wrist. And he touched him. I was like,
47:51
he's like, Jesus, they're broken. I'm like, wrap them up. And that's it. And don't say a
47:56
fucking word. He's like, okay. And but the head injuries, you know, nobody was talking
48:03
about traumatic brain injury back then. So I just wasn't myself, you know, for a really,
48:08
really long time. But that said, I call a friend of mine. And I'm like, I got to get a job. I have
48:15
no idea what to do. Because again, I already had my next assignment ready, waiting for I was going to
48:20
go to Hawaii for seal delivery vehicle to do a platoon there. And then I was going to screen
48:26
for seal team six. And he's like, go into sales. I'm like, okay, what am I going to sell?
48:35
It's like sell copiers. Michael, why would I sell copiers? He's like, because it's the
48:42
Vietnam of sales. If you can sell a copier, you can sell anything. And he goes, but most importantly,
48:48
they'll take anybody. So it's not going to be hard. So that's what I did. I sold copiers,
48:55
which I love that job. Not because I like copiers, but the guy I worked for was awesome.
49:01
The company was awesome. It was like lightning in a bottle. There was a bunch of really good people
49:06
on my team. We just became we still talk to this day. And that's 25 years ago. So anyway,
49:15
and then I left that job and I like software sold software. That was like a big deal, right?
49:19
Because that's when software was cert come out and they gave you a really big base salary
49:24
and commission. It was so anyway, I am in New York City. And I'm about to close at that time.
49:34
It was a consolidated Edison. It was going to be a $3 million deal. I had had a new boss who
49:40
wanted to fire me because he wanted to bring all his own people. And I'd only been there
49:43
the last of the year. And I remember I told the boss of the company, if he fires me, that's
49:50
fine. But I'll go to Con Edison, which is who the deal was with. And that deal is over. And he's like,
49:56
ah, we could probably still salvage it. I go, no, you can't. I go because I got in because my dad
50:03
used to work there and he introduced me to the chairman. And that's the only reason we got
50:10
the call. And I will immediately tell my father to call in and say, don't do the deal. And
50:15
he'll do it and they'll listen, which was true. And the guy was, I remember he goes, well played.
50:20
He goes, okay, you're on. So we were in the city ready to close the deal.
50:27
The bat boss started to kind of warm up to me a little bit. Maybe I was a little hard on it.
50:32
This is going to be a great deal. And I went and got a cup of coffee. And somebody goes,
50:39
a helicopter just ran into the World Trade Center. We all go to street, look out like, oh,
50:44
wow, that's scary. It was 9 11. Right. Go back to the hotel. Because that was the first thing
50:51
everybody was saying was a helicopter that flew into the end. You just look out and you saw
50:55
the smoke. And it was like, wow, that's awful. And all the venti latte, you know, then you
51:00
go back up to the, you know, then everything happens, right? And we were downtown. And I
51:05
remember this is how focused I was. And I'm not proud of this story, but I'll tell it anyway.
51:11
Literally, the towers are collapsing. And I call con Edison. I'm like, you know, I have an appointment
51:17
at 11. I'm assuming all appointments for offer today. They were like, yeah, everything is canceled
51:24
for the day. And anyway, so then you the whole thing, right? You settle in, you're there,
51:31
everything falls. You know, my brother-in-law was killed. He was in he worked for Canterford's
51:38
Gerald. I remember I ran all the way uptown to find my sister. And then we spent, you know,
51:45
that night. It was, it was horrific. Because, you know, we went to the hospitals and we
51:53
gave the picture, the whole thing. It was the worst. You know, and everybody at the
52:00
hospital, they were amazing. So anyway, my point is that day, I was like, okay, I got to get back
52:05
into this fight. So I got myself medically cleared, which is another fun story. I put my
52:12
application in for the FBI and the CIA. And I was like, you know, whoever gets to me first,
52:17
or, you know, approves me first. That's who I'm going with. And it was the FBI. And I,
52:23
so I went to the FBI Academy and I literally, I requested New York City, Central Asian terrorism,
52:29
which was Afghanistan, Pakistan. And then the former Soviet republics, Uzbekistan, Kazakhstan,
52:35
Kyrgyzstan, all those. I got it. Day one, 2003. I was in the middle of that fight, you know,
52:44
the war on terror as an FBI agent. And that was, so that's how I got there.
52:53
No, that's, that's wild. So are you back? You're back overseas as a part of the FBI? I mean,
53:04
you're training is still there, you know, your muscle memory, right? What was kind of that
53:09
transition? Like, I mean, I'm assuming there's still part of you that was, you know, you're,
53:13
once a seal, always a seal, right? But now you're working a different, you know,
53:18
different entity. How hard was that to, to differentiate between the two? You know, I was
53:24
pretty good when I left the SEAL teams and then in the private sector. I didn't reflect too much on it,
53:31
right? I didn't really have a hard time adapting. Because I was quite frankly, I was just happy
53:38
to be alive, right? It's literally a perspective thing. I was like, I could be dead. You can
53:42
complain all you want, but Jesus, this could be a lot worse. So I had some pretty decent
53:46
perspective. So I didn't have a hard time with that transition. And then when I got
53:54
interestingly enough, though, when I got into the FBI, so I, you know, after like two years,
54:01
I tried out for the SWAT team. So I got, I'm like, you know, I got to be on the SWAT team.
54:06
And that was great. That was a great combat unit. We did operations all the time, high risk
54:13
arrest. It was awesome. But you're still required to collateral duty, right? So you're still, you're
54:21
still a case agent. And that's your primary. And what I found was what ultimately hurt me
54:31
was my mindset of being so aggressive, right? With working cases. Like I was just super
54:40
aggressive. And I worked, I found great cases. I recruited sources that nobody thought could
54:45
be recruited. And I put together really aggressive operational plans for certain things.
54:53
And what I found was the FBI, their go to is not aggressive. It's just not.
55:01
And I started to butt heads with a lot of people. So weirdly enough, the transition out
55:07
of the SEAL teams became harder for me when I joined the FBI. Because I had such a mindset
55:14
of mission accomplishment, dangers a part of the job, you mitigate it as much as you can.
55:21
But hey, that's the way it goes. And not everybody shared that. And so as, I just can't
55:27
go out and do what I want, right? There's certain things I've got to get approval for
55:31
to do. And the red tape and bureaucracy in the FBI is stifling. So I started to really butt heads
55:41
with people. If I could do it again, I would have done it a little different, but I wouldn't
55:46
have been less frustrated. So that was actually a tougher transition realizing thinking I was
55:51
going into the same type of environment. And it wasn't, it was a different environment. Now,
55:57
thank God I was on the SWAT team, because that was the same type of environment. So I got my fix
56:02
of my people, so to speak. And a few times, I would have a boss and we were of like mine,
56:11
and he'd sign off on everything. Yep, go for it. Go for it. Go for it. And so that was good.
56:16
So if you had a good boss, you could really get some things done. And then when you had a
56:20
bad boss, they would stagnate. So yeah, that was, and that's why I left the FBI, ultimately. I was
56:29
just sick and tired of doing battle, where I didn't feel like I should have had to have done battle,
56:35
getting approval to do good aggressive cases. I just got tired of it.
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So from there, Errol, you knew then you wanted to get into something, something else. And
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we've all experienced the ice cold leadership training. Can you talk about, you maybe sealed FBI,
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you saw the way things should be run, or how to attack certain situations, and maybe things,
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how or leadership that you didn't like, how did you, what did you take from all that to then
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teach organizations like ours or companies like ours, how to implement some of the things you
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learned throughout your years. So when I knew I wanted to leave the FBI, I was really caught
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between a rock and a hard place. I didn't know what I was going to do. And I was like,
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I was like, I'm not going back to sales to hold the back, right? I'm not beating, you know,
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I'm not beating the street anymore. Because I'm too old for that. And nobody's really going to
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hire me as a sales manager. And I was like, I suppose I could be a mercenary. And I mean
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mercenary, not like a joke, right? There's plenty of like contracting out people do it all the time.
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And I was like, I don't know that I want to do that. I guess that's I have no choice. And I was
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talking to my brother in law. And I was just venting my frustration. And he was looking at me like
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I had three heads. And finally, I'm like, what are you looking at me like that for? He goes,
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Errol, I pay a guy a ton of money with like a tenth of your qualification to talk to him
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about leadership. And I remember I literally went, that's a thing. I didn't even know that this world
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existed of consultation for leadership and management. I had no idea. So I said, well,
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hell, I think I could do that. And he was like, I think you could probably do that. So
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if you're going to do that, you've got to be able to articulate what you stand for,
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right? From a leadership perspective, you know, you can't just go up like, Hey, I'm
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I'm really cool. Let's talk and maybe I can help you out. You know, and you know, you grow as
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you do it, but I had to establish what do I believe as a leader. And even though my ability
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to articulate it has improved, we started Ice Cold Leader in 2016. So, you know,
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we're going to be going on our 10th year here soon. What I believed was you go to what you know
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in times of chaos and struggle, because that's when leadership matters, you go to what you know,
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what do you know? And then I went back and I just replayed all the dangerous situations
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that I had been in, both in the FBI, right? And in the SEAL teams, in combat, in SWAT,
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you know, knocking on a door and having a guy come out with a broken bottle in the FBI,
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having to draw down on him and be like, Oh my God, I might have to blow this guy away
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and then be able to think of ways to defuse the situation. And then in a split second say,
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Okay, now I'm going to kill you. Right. And I didn't, I didn't have to shoot that guy,
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talked him out of it. But that in my mind was leadership. Where does your head go
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when you have no time to think? What is your thought process? And I remember it's going,
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well, it was always about emotion. It all started with the emotion. If I could recognize how I was
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feeling, I could make an adjustment. If I was scared to death, which I was most of the time,
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I could say, Okay, I'm afraid. But in this situation, what's my intuition telling me to
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do with this fear? And then it was a lot of trial and error, right? Like, well, sometimes I would
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lash out unnecessarily. Well, that didn't work. So I started to say whatever the emotion is,
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I've also got to be aware of my intuitive action on that emotion. And then I've got to
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decide, is that an appropriate behavior for the situation? And then what's my plan to get
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through it? And that was it. I'm like, it's a process. I can teach people this process.
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I can share with them, in my view, these are the steps to how to train yourself to in an emergency
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situation immediately fall back to this. And you'll get through it, you will make conscious
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decisions, not always the right decision, but a conscious decision. And that's okay,
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because you can make mistakes. But if you're doing it very thoughtfully following this process,
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and you decide, and you make a wrong decision, you can at least go back and say, Hey, what part
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of the process did I skip? Usually it's I just I was angry, and I went red, and then just acted
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randomly, usually starts with emotion. So that's what I started to present to people,
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right? And, you know, at the time, early on, it was very difficult because all I had was these
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combat stories. And I had some private sector experience, which helped my credibility a little
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bit. But, you know, you do a good job, people, you know, start to hire you back. And then the
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more companies I worked with, then I was able to just relay success to us like, you know,
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you guys auto hauler, I'm talking about you guys, all the time to other clients, right? Like, hey,
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I've got this one client, and here's what they do. And here's how they use this. And here's the
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adjustments they make. So now I tell fewer combat stories. And I tell more stories about some of
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my clients, and those successes, following the process. But that was the road to get
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to where I am now. So right now, me and my wife, we run it. And that's it. That's where we are.
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Yeah, that's awesome. I mean, firsthand, personally, professionally, it's been a privilege
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to work with you. Noticing things in my life that I honestly, I was like, I probably would never
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have taken account of without work without having worked with you. So thank you for that.
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I know, Frank, I'm probably talking for you on that one.
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100%. Like being cognizant of my emotions. I talked to you about before, like even around my kids in
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stressful situations, because that's four little kids getting ready for football practice or something
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like that. And cleats won't go on the right way. And we're running five minutes behind. You just
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want to freak out, you know, I mean, it's like, you know, work related, whatever it is, but it
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relates to a lot of different things in your life and your day to day. And that's, you know,
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and that's what I try to tell people this, it doesn't have to be some big revelation in your
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world that turns it upside down, right? For you, Frank, what you took was that. And that's enough.
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That makes you better at everything you do, but especially with your kids. And Jacob, you were
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the, you were kind of the same in the same boat, right? It was more of a presence thing, but it
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came back to your kids, right? So once you find, and that's the beauty of the process,
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everybody goes through the same process, but they'll find what's important to them and latch
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on to it. And then good, we win. Everybody will get something different out of it, but I love it when
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guys and gals go home with it. Because then, because that's really important. That's what
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matters. How am I around my kids? Am I losing my shit around my kids for something stupid?
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What kind of example am I setting? And then it's easy to say, okay, well, Frank,
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now just apply that at work, right? Just apply how often you're about to lose your mind at
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work, right? And then catch it, right? And that's all it was. Just one little thing, right? So
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no, it's everything. So I first hand, one of the one of the greater things I've been through
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in my personal professional career. Now, my final two questions is we're kind of coming up on
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on the last little bit here and you're a busy dude. What is Errol Dobler's favorite thing to
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do outside of the office? Number one, number two, where can people find you? Where can they connect
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with you if they want to get a little more information about ice cold leader? So I've got
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three young kids, right? My son is 12, my daughter is 11. My other daughter is six. I'm not going
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to be so lame to go. And I just love going and watching them play. I do. But if you,
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in an honest moment, when you say, what's your favorite thing to do outside the office?
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The rare occasion that I'm home alone and I can eat two bowls of honey nut Cheerios and watch
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a Jason Bourne movie, right? Just for now. The moment just to sit there and do this.
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That's kind of my favorite thing to do. That said, the kids are in sports.
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That's our life right now. And it is fun. Where do you find me? icecoldleader.com.
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I've got the book, Ice Cold Leader, Leaving From the Inside Out. The website's pretty good.
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Talks about our program. We do the virtual coaching, which you guys have done. We do
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in-person stuff and we didn't get a chance to talk about the ice baths and stuff, but we try to
06:03
apply that to the methodology. So anything you need to learn about Ice Cold Leader,
06:09
we've got a great newsletter. The newsletter is actually getting popular. My wife runs the newsletter
06:14
and what she's done is, right, there's typically a blog by me, but then she goes and finds the
06:22
news of the week for an issue, you know, you know, a bell is going through this and it will
06:30
relate to the, to whatever the topic is on the blog, you know, my take on it. So there's a lot
06:36
of business stuff in there as well. So the newsletter, you can subscribe to the newsletter.
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You find that at icecoldleader.com as well. So that's, that's about it. You know,
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I'm on LinkedIn a lot, Instagram more. I mean, I'm on that less. So yeah,
06:54
we will give everybody a warning. I mean, you never got a warning about how we going into
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buds and things, but I'll give everyone a warning that you will have to do like two weeks of ice cold
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showers if you're going to go through the program, which those first couple are pretty miserable.
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That was the, by far the worst part, right? It's just a tool. It's a tool for a lot of
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different things. So we try to apply it as best we can. Well, Arrell, thank you so much for
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being, you know, our first guest on the other office. Thank you for your service. I could,
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I can say that a thousand times and we probably could have other two hours of just talking old
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stories, but this was a treat. I hope everyone enjoys it. I just thank you again for helping
07:35
us again personally, professionally and jumping on today. Well, it's my pleasure and I appreciate
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you guys trust me enough to get on to the opening, the opening episode. Thank you so much.